Want to learn a concept that's been so freeing when you get stuck comparing where you "should" be in life or to others? Watch this video to realize nothing is how it seems, and when you get stuck in comparison, one question can help you determine facts from the story you're telling yourself.
Jill and Mary: It's the realization that nothing is as it seems. It's something that's kept us from going after big dreams. We're here to bring you some tools for you to start focusing on watering your own grass.
One thing we want to leave you with to end this conversation is a question. How do I know this to be true? Use that question to stop the thoughts that are going on in your head right in their tracks. You don't know what's actually true behind the scenes. Unless you ask.
What's up, Cadre fam? Hi, Cadre. It's Jill and Mary, your personal cheerleaders and your social emotional learning experts. And today we want to talk about a realization we've had over and over and over again that has been so freeing for us. You want to know what it is? Good, because we want to talk about it. It's the realization that nothing is as it seems. We have a tendency as human beings to make up these huge stories, these embellishments about what's going on and truth told. When the truth comes out, usually it's nothing like what we made up in our own heads.
You've heard the saying, the grass is greener on the other side, right? Well, we're here to challenge that notion, because what happens if you took responsibility for your own grass, developed your self awareness enough to say, wait a second, I need to water my grass first before I even compare what's happening next door? Like we said before, this is something we have realized over and over and over again. So we wanted to bring it up now because we really don't want to gatekeep. And if you have no idea what gatekeeping is, we work with teenagers.
It means withhold information. Jill and I are 34 and 36 years old, and we learned how to water our own grass way too late in life. It's something that's kept us from going after big dreams. It's something that's kept us comparing ourselves or feeling like we're not enough because of what someone else's grass looks like. So we're here to bring you just a couple of tools for you to start focusing on watering your own grass activities like making time for good people versus toxic people, and prioritizing sleep.
Using no as a complete sentence, moving our bodies, practicing gratitude and working on our passions, practicing Jomo. The joy of missing out versus Fomo, which is the fear of missing out. Love that one, which we've talked about several times before. One thing we want to leave you with to end this conversation is a question, a question that you can utilize as a tool on top of all these other things that we've given you. And the question is, how do I know this to be true? How do you know this to be true?
If you find yourself in comparisonitis or not enoughness, use that question to stop the thoughts that are going on in your head right in their tracks. Because the truth is, you don't know what's actually true behind the scenes. Unless you ask. Unless you pointedly ask or know the person personally to know that. That situation, the story you've made up about it in your head is true. So whenever you find yourself in either one of those states, stop yourself by how do I know this to be true? We hope you guys have an incredible rest of your day and we will chat with you on the next video.
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