Dominate The Day, Dominate The Year!

Hello. Happy Friday. I'm gonna give everybody a second to jump in. It's sweater weather. I don't know if you've seen that. Saturday Night Live skit. Sweater weather. Sweater weather. And I'm in Arizona, and most of our team is in much colder climates. So if that tells you anything about Arizonans blood and how thin our blood gets, when it starts to hit, like, 50 degrees, it's chilly. There's a brisk, cool air happening in Arizona. It's Friday, and I think about Friday as just another Monday. And I'm kind of going to talk to you a little bit about that today and just how to dominate your day and just some thoughts that have been swirling and whirling around in my head.

I am one of those people who races to put up my Christmas tree. Like, my tree is up on November 1. Every November 1, my tree is up. And I was in a conversation recently with somebody, and it really kind of got me thinking about racing to get to the next thing. And it doesn't mean you can't be excited, because I think this is the time of year that just goes in the blink of an eye, and I want to talk about why that is. First of all, before I go down that road, I would love to say a huge congratulations to two of our collaborators at girls mentorship.

The women of girls mentorship, or, sorry, the women. Two of our collaborators at Cadre. I already had girls mentorship on the brain. Two of our collaborators here at the Cadre family are Jill and Mary of girls mentorship, and they are the recent recipients of a $15,000 grant for their small business. So I just wanted to say a huge shout out and congratulations to Jill and Mary. You make a huge difference on our platform, and I know you're making a huge difference for the young women and all of the lives that you touch.

Teens, tweens, adults, all of those lives. Let's see. Getting a little message here. I don't know if it's not working. No, I think we're still. I think. I don't know. I don't see any comments. Am I live? You guys, is this working for you? I don't see the comments coming through. Let me just see if any messages are coming through, because I'm getting a message. I just want to hold tight, everybody. No, I think we're working. Okay. Yes. Okay. It's working. Yay. All right, good. I was getting a message, and I got a little nervous.

Gosh. So let me know in the comments if I'm not okay. Anyway, so back to girls mentorship. I'm so proud of them. They are exactly the type of human beings we love having on this platform, and it sparked a lot of thoughts for me today. So they have been busting so hard to work toward a pitch that they had to give live, and being live is very scary. I'm doing it right now, and even though I've been on stages and done podcasts and done live tv multiple times for about seven years now, I still get, like, those nerves.

And I think that's such a. Such a great thing. It's such a gift to get those nerves and to want something so badly that you actually get nervous for it. Your palms are sweating, you bust your b***, you prepare. You've got notes everywhere, which I do. So, anyway, I just want to say a huge congratulations to them, and it all plays a part in what I want to talk to you about today. So I am going to. Now that I've got that housekeeping out of the way, I'm going to ask you a question. I am going to ask you to ask yourself, where did my energy go this week?

Where did my energy go this week? Also ask yourself how you could have redirected or directed your energy for more effective use. So where did your energy go? Was it utilized effectively? And were my actions this week fear based or outcome based? So I'll say that again. Where did your energy on go? How could you have used it for better? And were your actions this week and your energy fear based or outcome based? You know, when I asked myself this question, because I. That's how I prepared for today, I thought about the amount of seconds in a week, in any year, and I'm going to give you that.

I'm going to give you that number. I have it written down. Seconds in a year, seconds in a week. How much time we get in a day? 24 hours? Break that down. 60 seconds in a minute. We have, I think there's something like 525,000 plus seconds in a year. That is a ton of seconds. If you stop and think about your productivity, your energy level, how much effort you're putting into something and ask yourself, did I use this energy and effort for good? Did I provide or deny myself the opportunity to excel, the opportunity to grow, the opportunity to achieve, did I provide or deny myself the opportunity?

It's a scary question. And when we think about how many seconds we have in a day, how many hours we have in a day, how many hours we have in a week, and you start to break down all of the places that you're spending this energy, how are you dividing your day? Are you making a to do list? How are you dominating your day and kicking some serious b***? Have you said yes to the commitments that you want to go all in on, and are you showing up for yourself in those areas? Because if you're not, you need to reevaluate the things that you have committed to and the boundaries that you have set.

There was a topic in one of our meetings last week that really struck me. I'm going to get really real with you. Really emotional, really vulnerable. Last week, somebody was leading a meeting for us, and they asked us about resistance. Where are you feeling resistance? Our team will tell you that. I sat quietly through that whole meeting, and it struck me. It hit me so hard, so much so, that I felt emotionally knocked out and could not attend our next meeting. We had a back to back meeting day that day, and I felt emotionally knocked out.

I felt actually quietly called out, although I wasn't personally being called out in that meeting. But it hit me really hard, and it caused me to ask myself, am I living in resistance or am I living in existence? I got so emotional when resistance was presented to me that it actually made me pull back, and I got a little teary and thought about where I am resisting in my commitments and am I showing up as the best version of myself? Am I showing up as the leader that I am supposed to be? Have I been living up to my full capability?

I have a lot of commitments. I'm one of those people who says yes to a lot. I own a couple businesses, and I'm on the Cadre team, and I'm a mentor to a young girl. I'm a friend who shows up for everyone in their biggest moments. I would like to think that I'm the glue that holds a lot of my family together, and I'm the person who still calls their second grade teacher. So I spend a lot of energy on commitments and on showing up. And there are also times when I do feel resistance around the responsibilities that I've signed up for.

So much so that it brings tears to my eyes. Like, wow, am I really? Did I give my all on binging Netflix this week? Probably. This is just a hypothetical, by the way. Or did I give my all to the job that I'm getting paid to do? Did I earn my paycheck today versus did I earn my paycheck this month? It's the same every day. You need to show up. Earn that paycheck every day. Earn that spot on your board of directors, earn that position as the coach of your kids soccer team. Did you show up in the same way in every way, in every responsibility?

I really have to dig deep to do that sometimes. And when that question was posed to me last week, I felt seen. I felt personally attacked, even though I wasn't. It was a moment where I really had to ask myself, am I living in resistance or am I living in existence? Luke is saying instability, stability is my new stability. Uncomfortability is the jam. It's growth, totally. I have been living in so much discomfort in the last six months, being in a new role and still trying to maintain my identity in other roles.

But everything is on the other side of difficulty. And you have to ask yourself, am I going all in? Because tomorrow we don't know what's going to happen. This is the time of year where the memes start coming out and it's like, this is the meme I saw recently. This is when the circle back in January start floating around. I couldn't be more, like, averse to that if I tried. Do not be that person that's looking to circle back with somebody in January. We don't know what's going to happen in January.

You have right now to show up to produce for yourself. You owe it to yourself to show up for these commitments. Are you putting enough into your big goals? Are you putting enough into your small goals? Because that's what gets us to the bigger goals. I just had all of these thoughts recently, like, am I showing up as the best version of myself in the fashion industry and in one of my girl leadership groups, we call it are you showing up as your higher self? You owe it to your higher self to be that version of yourself every single day.

Don't be that person that goes down the rabbit hole when the weather gets cold and you hunker down and you make your stew or whatever it is for the week and it gets dark outside and it's 05:00 and you're like, I'm done producing for the day. Maximize every second that you have. If you can squeeze a few more minutes out of emailing, if you can squeeze in a few more minutes of outdoor play with your kiddos, if you can write in your journal for five more seconds of the day, like, you can gain so much more.

Do you have a healthy use of your time? This, to me, is the biggest question that you need to ask yourself. We are in the final days of 2022. I can't stress that enough. I'm going to tell you a quick little story, and then I will wrap this up. I'm going to go. I have my journal here. I've been manifesting in this journal. It has produced a lot of manifestations for me, and I've been writing in it for the past couple of years. I'm not as consistent as I want to be, but I'm just going to pick a day.

Let's see this thing called future gratitude, where I write down a list of the things that I'm grateful for that haven't happened yet. It's my method of manifesting and putting things out into the universe that I want to come true. Sorry, big, loud, and playing up above. Okay. I'm going to pick something that I wrote from my journal in 2021. Let's see. Okay. I am grateful for my excellent health right now. I do have good health. I am lucky that I am in good health. I am grateful for writing my book.

I'm going to tell you a story. I have been manifesting that I would publish a book and write a book for the last, I don't know, ten years. And I finally started writing it down two years ago. The other day, I had 1 hour in my day where I just felt super creative, and I finished a children's book in 1 hour. I got a draft of a children's book completed. I am already in communication with an illustrator, and in less than a week, all of that has come to fruition. And I have been manifesting writing a book for ten years.

Started writing it down two years ago, and it took me 1 hour, 1 hour to get the draft. It's a children's book. Okay? It's not a novel, but it's a good start. And I thought about it, and my mom said to me the other day, wow, you've been wanting to do that for years. And I thought about it. I was like, how did it take me this long to just carve 1 hour out of my day, get creative? And I know sometimes it's a process, but my goodness, ten years, and I achieved that goal in 1 hour. Is it perfect? No.

Does it need edits? Probably. Is this illustrator probably gonna give me a run for my money? Yeah. Is it gonna be the first person I hire? Maybe not, but it's done. And it was just a great reminder that if you just carve out the time and you commit yourself and you sit down and you do it, anything is possible. So I just want you to leave with this understanding that if you exist, instead of resist, there's so much that you can do. If you dominate your day. Your year will be epic. If you just put the amount of energy into the things that get you toward your big goals, I promise you you will look back and say that was so easy.

It's the narrative. It's going down that rabbit hole and telling yourself that you can't or that there's something else that you should be doing. Just get it done. Anyway, that's my Friday message for you guys. So proud of girls mentorship. Thank you all for showing up here. I'm so bad about responding to comments as they come up because I'm so engrossed in the message but I love using this live stream capability as just a way to dump and to get real and we love providing that for you here on Cadre.

There's something you want to see us talk about. Please let us know and just thanks for tuning in and listening to my message. I love you all.