A host reflects on recent family illness, shares a puzzle-wall moment, and coaches listeners through recognizing whether they celebrate others or make achievements about themselves, urging building others up instead of stealing their joy.
Cadre crew has dealt with a little bit of sickness here. A COVID strain that ran through influenza, ran through that. Everyone is finally getting over the mend here. So I wanted to show you this in our house. It's our puzzle wall.
Brennan: Do I celebrate for others, or have I made it about myself? Brennan: Our goal here is to bring other people. Don't steal somebody else's joy. Build them up in that moment.
Good morning, Cadre crew. Man, what a great day to be alive. You know, unfortunately, you know, our family's dealt with a little bit of sickness here. We have, you know, a COVID strain that ran through influenza, ran through that, ran through our families the last ten days. It just seems like it's always, always been something, but everyone is finally getting over the mend here. So I wanted to show you this in our house. It's our puzzle wall. Basically, we have all of our puzzles, and so a lot of puzzles have been completed the last ten days, which is pretty amazing, and books and all that stuff behind me.
But I wanted to share a story today, and I wanted you to really think about this and process it for not only yourself, but when you're in a situation like this again. Okay, so let's say, for instance, you're at a dinner, lunch. You're meeting with maybe two, three, four friends, right? And all of you are together in a room, and you're sitting there, and somebody shares some information, right? Somebody shares some information to you. That is exciting. It might be a promotion. It might be having a baby.
It might be a new job. It might be starting a business. It might be any of those things, right? And so when that moment hits, what I really want you to think about is there's two different type of people in those situations. There's somebody that celebrates for that person, and there's somebody that makes it all about themselves. So, again, in the moment, we've all been there, right? We've all been there. You know exactly what I'm talking about. You're sitting in a room, there's four of you sitting down at lunch, and someone says, I got a promotion at work.
It's amazing. I can't wait to start. It starts next week. It comes with added salary and added this and added this. And there's three other people with you. And the first person's, like, exciting, so great for you, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then the next person, just wait for it. The next person will say something like, I haven't had a promotion in three years, right? Or, I haven't had a promotion in XYZ amount of time, or whatever, right? And just deflates the air out. So I really want you to put yourself in that place, and I want you to think about one of those situations, and I want to ask yourself, do I celebrate for others, or have I made it about myself?
And our goal here is to bring other people. Like, don't steal somebody else's joy. Don't steal their moment. Right. Build them up in that moment. Build them up in that opportunity. Build them up when they have this, this thing that they're number one, just having, probably the nerves and anxiousness and everything else to just share with the team, with the group, with your fearsome foursome for friends. Or maybe it's just pulling somebody off alone, whatever it is. So again, I want to put us all in that place and say, are you stealing somebody's joy in that moment or are you filling up their bucket?
And I think it's all of ours. It's all of our jobs as leaders, as people that are on this planet, is to make sure that we build other people up and we don't take away their joy or don't steal their moment. So think about all those things this week and I guarantee one of these things will happen and you're going to be sitting somewhere with somebody else or a team of other people or in your business, maybe two or three other folks, something along those lines. And when it does happen, I just really want you to just take a step back and process first and make it all about that person and build that individual up, because it does.
This happens more often than not. That is absolutely right, Risa. And I'm bringing this up because I experienced it three times last week where I watched individuals make somebody else's moment all about themselves. And so I really just wanted to share this today to say, how on earth can we change that paradigm and we can change that negative nelly. Or maybe it's the responsibility of the rest of the individuals at the table say, nope, not about you and all about them. Right. And so I think it's being assertive and being super direct in those moments, too.
Right. Or pulling somebody off the side and giving that honest feedback after the fact. Look, I know I'm guilty of this. I think I, I think I've actually done this more than I can even imagine. And that kind of, like, saddens me. But the reality is I believe I can get better. What is the root cause? That is right. That's a great question, Brennan. Brennan asks, what's the root cause and what's the stealing somebody's thunder and why have they not been heard? Those are deeper things that I think internally into that individual's psyche that they need to evaluate for themselves.
But regardless of, I think it is to focus on that moment when we're all laser focused on this week, these next two weeks, and you see this and you notice this and somebody else is sharing something that matters. That's meaningful. That's powerful for them. I really just want you to take a step back and for that moment, celebrate that individual. It's okay to ask questions. That's totally fine. Let's not make it about ourselves. Even those questions should be specific to somebody else. With that being said, I hope everybody just has an incredible week here at Cadre.
And whatever you're doing on this planet, enjoy it. Make it a wonderful week. Don't ever steal somebody's thunder. Remember to bring other people up. And if there's anything that we can ever do to support you here at Cadre, please reach out at Contactadre IO or infocadre IO, and we're always happy to help. If some of these things are driving you bonkers that you'd even like to work with a coach on, by all means, reach out to us here at Cadre coaching. We can submit a coaching request, and Doctor Carey will alleviate some of those concerns or worries, or start walking through some of those things to change your goals.
Because ultimately, you don't ever want to be that individual at that table that's proceeding that way. So if we can help change your life and others, let's do it. So make it an amazing week. Really think about what I brought up this time. Have a great, great day, you guys. Thank you so much.
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