New Year, New You

Hey, Cadre family doctor Kerry here. Just gonna give it a few seconds here for people to join me on the live today. We're gonna be talking about the topic new year, new you. And if I can be honest, I used to hate the month of December because I would sit and think, have I accomplished all my goals this year, going into another year? What have I, what do I have to show for it? And to be honest, it's even more compounded with the fact that my birthday is January 3. So it's like, okay, this is not just a new year, but the new year of my life.

Like, what. What do I have to show for this, this year of my life in addition to the calendar year? So it's almost like a compounding effect as far as, for me, what the new year brings. And a lot of times it brought a sadness because it's, oh, I didn't get all the goals I wanted to accomplish this year. And I would sit and dwell on them for, like, from Thanksgiving till the end of the year, just like, oh, I didn't get that checked off. And I'm a goal driven person. So for me, to not accomplish a goal is a really big deal.

And to me, that means failure. Maybe you resonate with that today, but I want to just give you some tips on what. Hi, Nick. On how to just kind of navigate through this period as we talk a lot about goal setting. We talk a lot about this on the videos, actually, if you haven't watched Nick's live from yesterday, phenomenal. On, like, how to set goals according to your purpose. But I want to talk not just about the goals, but how. How can you leave some of this stuff behind from the year? Because if you're like me and you didn't meet one of your goals, it's pretty devastating.

Or maybe you're somebody who just says, I don't even like to make goals because I never accomplished them. And, gosh, this year just sucked. It just flat out sucked. Hi, Devin. Nice to see you. But there's maybe a lot of stuff that happened this year. I think just the last few years of our lives were hard, right? For all of us. Whether that brought job changes, you know, family changes, sickness, whatever it may be, there's a lot of stuff you're just like, gosh, good riddance. I want to leave that in 2022.

And so I really have a different outlook this time of year because as I'm excited to start my new list of goals and the new year of my life, as well as the new calendar year. I also get to leave the junk behind. My church actually does this special service. It's actually going to be tonight where we, we call it Shredder. The Shredder service. And, like, you could do a shredder ceremony at your house if you want, because that's essentially what we're doing. And we're writing down all of the things that we want to leave in this year, and then we literally go put them in shredders.

You could have a fire. Just make sure you're doing it safely. I know there's another coach on Cadre who's going to do a ceremony like this as well. To think about what are the things I want to leave behind in 2022? And the act of the ceremony of doing it is so profound, because what I invite you to do is write down all of the stuff that you want to leave in 2022. Maybe it's bad decisions you made. Maybe it's poor choices you made as far as time management. Maybe you didn't spend enough time with your family, and you're like, gosh, I could have done a better job of that this year.

Maybe it's a poor business decision that you made. Maybe it wasn't even a bad decision that you made, but it was an outcome that you weren't expecting that your now living through. And you're like, gosh, I didn't even think that was a bad decision at the time. But now I'm living through this, this horrible yuck that I have to deal with. And it doesn't necessarily mean that it's going to be over if you shred it and leave it in 2022. But maybe it's your attachment to it. Maybe it's a mindset that you have, like, maybe it's a mindset of, like, I'm always going to struggle in this area.

I I didn't, I didn't get in shape this year. I'll probably never get in shape. Probably won't get in shape next year. Maybe you didn't meet that goal of, like, your health goal for the year. Write those things down. Write those mindsets down. You know, the things that you repeat to yourself on a daily basis that are not uplifting and not positive. Write those things down. And a lot of times I don't invite, like, my clients when I'm coaching to write those things down because I don't want to manifest those things.

But this is an act of actually getting it out of you writing it down and then shredding it, burning it, whatever may be so you can have that ceremonial effect of, okay, so this is a mindset that I've always struggled with, and I want to leave that mindset. I want that gone. I'm going to come out of agreement with that. It's almost like breaking a contract with that thing or that mindset. So I just want to invite you to try this exercise and leave those regrets behind. There's nothing to be gained from dwelling on a regret or a bad decision.

We can all learn from something we've done. I know we make mistakes on a regular basis. We're humans, but we can all take the lesson from it. But leave the emotional attachment behind in 2022. Leave that negative junk. And this isn't a goal setting exercise. This is literally just the things you want to leave behind in this year. And then I would invite you to, once you've written them all down, do some sort of physical act with this piece of paper. Maybe you've got pages of paper, maybe there's a lot of stuff you want to leave behind, but shred them, burn them, you know, whatever it is that you want to do and say, like, you know what?

I'm going to be done with that. Maybe it's toxic relationships in your life. Maybe it's a mindset you have at work. Maybe you're saying, I struggle with being, I don't know, overly dependent on my team at work, or maybe I struggle with this thing in my family and I want to just release the attachment I have towards that thing, whatever it is, for you. I want to invite you to let it go. And I know this is so much easier said than done to just let these things go. But I can tell you, when you have kind of this ceremony around it, it is so much more profound, because you are saying, I am literally coming out of agreement with that negative attitude, with that negative mindset, with that poor decision that I've been living, with, the shame that I've been carrying for that bad decision I made.

I wanna come out of agreement with that shame. I wanna come out of agreement with the fear that I've lived in for the last two or three years, whatever it may be. Leave it behind and do the ceremonial act and just see what happens in your life. You've got a few days left in the year to do this. I would invite you to try it. Then check out Nick's livestream from yesterday. Check out Risa's livestream coming this week about the word she's gonna be using for her 2023 and see what happens in your life.

I've only been doing this now for two years, but I can tell you that I can't believe the difference I feel this year, coming into December, knowing that it's kind of an invitation that I get to leave the junk, right? And, like, it's an exciting month for me because I get to set new goals, maybe the ones that I didn't achieve in 2022 for my 39th year on this planet. And in 2023, those two really big things for me, starting in 2023, I get to set new goals. I get to leave this junk behind. It is such an exciting feeling that I used to dread.

And just this simple act of just switching how you think about this time of year is just so important in doing that. So, Shawn, I'm glad you wanted to leave that negative behind. Yeah. Write down the stuff from 2021 that you didn't leave behind yet. Whatever it is, it doesn't have to just be 2022. Write down everything that you're like. I'm done with that. I'm coming out of agreement with that. So I hope this was insightful for you guys. Make sure you tune into the lives the rest of this week. We just have some awesome content surrounded on goal setting and just really being intentional with this time of year from all of us at Cadre.

Happy holidays new year, and we're just excited to be on this journey with you guys. Take care.