What’s In Your Toolbox?

In my eye. Hello. Hey, everyone. It's Tuesday to see the light. The light. We're trying to be the light for you today. If I'm not mistaken, we are also going head to head with Barb, who's doing the first Cadre webinar on finances. So that's really exciting. And we will lose viewers to her any day of the week. Let's go, finances. Let's go, baby. Um, happy Tuesday, everyone. How's your week been? I can't believe it's Tuesday and it's Super bowl week. I mean, this is an exciting week. Well, I was gonna say it might not be exciting for wherever you are, but here in Arizona, we're in the heart of the madness right now, because not only is it Super bowl week here, it also coincides with the waste management Open.

And if you've never heard it called the waste management Open, maybe you've heard it as the biggest party in golf. It's not a golf tournament. It's literally a party. And there's people playing golf at this party. Yeah, we're like, oh, wait, what are these golfers doing? And there's festivities everywhere every day for the rest of the week. There's an influx of millions of people in town right now. So traffic is crazy. Reservations places are crazy. The locals are picking and choosing wisely. Wisely.

When they go out, when to leave their hair. But today, toolbox talks. On Tuesday, we're going to tackle a conversation that we get asked all the time from girls, parents, professionals alike. And that's all around confidence. And what I think we want to do with this topic, because we could talk about it for literally days. Days is break it up into a couple different parts. So today, what we want to talk about in terms of building your confidence is that consistency piece. Consistent, consistent, consistent.

There is a quote that we've used. What is it? Do consistently what the average person does occasionally. So when you talk about doing things consistently, especially in a society that really glamorizes overnight success, right? How many of you are on social media? Scrolling, scrolling, scrolling. And you're looking at that person in front of that private jet, and they're like, all you have to do to gain millions of dollars is follow this three step formula. Bada bing, bada boom. Wouldn't it be. Wouldn't that be nice?

Right? And they're like, overnight, I was literally, I had $300 to my name last year, or $3, right? It's this gregarious story that they've made up. And unfortunately, a lot of us fall victim to it. However, in a world that glamorizes that overnight success mentality, you wind up finishing. It's the classic tortoise in the hare story. You wind up finishing on top, the more consistent you can be over time. And I think that's such an important point that people glaze right over. And consistency doesn't mean, I think that's when we work, especially with girls and their families, if it doesn't go right the first time, they quit.

And that's not what consistency is. It's being okay to have your goal and to focus on it and to go after it, but it's also okay along the way to trip up, to ebb, to flow, and to know that you are on the path of becoming or achieving that goal, that person that you wanna be. But it's being consistent and being okay that it's not gonna be perfect. Well, and we love the light. We love to say that. Shaking the phone. Whoa. We love to say that the purpose is written in pen. Write it in pen. But you have to be okay writing the path in pencil because I know all of you have seen some sort of infographic that looks similar to, like, what we perceive to be the journey of an entrepreneur or wherever, whatever you're doing in life.

It's like, from here to here, straight line as the crow flies. But in reality, any one of our lives is literally like, it's all over the place. So it's tasmanian devil. Do we know what that is? As long as. Yes. People watching that know what it is. As long as you are okay ebbing and flowing with the different curveballs that get thrown your way along the way. Building that consistency muscle is what's going to get you through the times where you feel like giving up or the times where you feel like you can't continue on because you don't see a viable solution.

So how do we look at. How do we look at your life or where you want to grow? What area in your life do you want to grow in more and evaluate, like, where are you not feeling consistent? Where are you not feeling consistent? Because, again, we don't want to sit here and say that you need to approach every area of your life in this regard. You want small wins to build your confidence, to then approach all other areas of your life. So maybe it's your relationships, maybe. Maybe you're craving better relationships and you want to be more consistent in your communication and how you show up for people.

So start there. Maybe that's the area for you where you get to figure out, what does consistency look like for you? Because it's gonna look different. It's gonna look different for me, it's gonna look different for Mary. Right. Little fun story here from Lululemon's past, because if you know, Jill and I, you know that that is where we met. And when we met was the big boss. She was the store manager of a multimillion dollar store, one of the biggest ones in not only the western region, but in the country.

And I looked up to her so much. And I'll never forget this story she told us at a staff meeting or an example that she gave at a staff meeting. And it was around building the consistency muscle, right? And we can liken it to something that we all know about or have friends that do, or maybe we've even tried it ourselves. And it's the thought of running a marathon. If you've never ran a marathon or a half marathon or a five k or a ten k the first day you do it, you're not gonna go out and try to run 16 miles because your mind hasn't done that yet.

So your mind, in this scenario, is only going to allow you to do what it knows you can do. It's going to shut you down. It's going to tell you you can't do it. And if you don't meet the expectation, probably the unrealistic expectation, that you set day one, you're going to give up on that goal because your mind is going to end up beating you down. So how do we eat an elephant? Right? It's one bite at a time. So the consistency piece in training for a marathon, day one, you set out your clothes, right?

You set yourself up by setting out your clothes. You tie your shoes, maybe you walk to the mailbox to see how they feel, but you have to slowly build up step, step by step, no pun intended, in order to establish the consistency it's going to take to amass all of the miles that you're going to have to run prior to running the actual marathon. Mary and I use the 1% analogy a lot. Just do be more consistent in that one area, 1% better than you were the day before, and you get to decide what that looks like.

So for me, I have been a crazy, hormonal, emotional mother lately, and I don't want to be that way for my kiddos. And I have to remember, okay, what do I need to do in order to be patient and understanding and compassionate? And that consistency piece, for me, looks like taking care of myself I need to prioritize myself first before I can take care of my business and my family, the people that I love the most. TTB, baby. How we taking care of business? So as opposed to me, and I even told Mary yesterday, I failed at it, I wasn't great at it.

And I also, as opposed to it keeping me down and having me stay down today, I got up today and I was like, we're going to the gym. We're gonna do an iceberg. We're gonna do an ice cold plunge. Cold plunge. That pool, that pool I'm staring at right now is 52 degrees right now. That is so guess what? That was my 1% today. And tomorrow I'm gonna do better. Because the more we know how to do better, the better we do. And it's all about Grace. It's all about trial and error, which is okay, well, and I think it's important to notate if you've been joining us on these lives, if you've been coming consistently and listening to what we're talking about or catching the playback.

The red thread that we started with was self awareness. So in order to understand that we get to hit the reset button today based on who we were yesterday, that self awareness piece allows us to pick right back up where we left off. Right. It allows us to say, I didn't have the best day yesterday, but that's not who I am. That's something that I did. And I'm going to remain consistent in what I said I wanted to do for myself. That 1% at a time, that walk to the mailbox, then that walk to the next mailbox, whatever that looks like for you, self awareness is the red thread that ties this all together all over again.

Because you well know just as much as I know that. If you're not aware of what's going on in here, let's call it elevator music, honestly, because that's what it can be. You get in the elevator and it's like, okay, okay, okay. I don't love it. I don't hate it. I'm tuning it out. We can't tune this out because if we do, it ends up running us, as opposed to us running it. And that's detrimental to things like your self confidence, your self awareness, and what we're talking about here, your consistency.

Because if your mind winds up taking over and it starts telling you that you can't do things based on what it knows, then what are you gonna do? You know? Our willpower is only enough, our motivation is only enough. Until we crack and don't believe that we can do it. And that's when we start sitting down on ourselves. That's why it's so important to flex that consistency muscle so we know what to do when times get hard. Mmm. That's it. That's it. We challenge you today to evaluate the areas of your life that you want to grow better in your consistency.

And take the acronym jot. You'll hear this a lot out of our mouths too, because it's, again, it's a bite size. What is just one thing that you can do today in order to flex that consistency muscle. And if you're watching this live, if you watch it with us now or the playback, this is your 1%. Good job. Yes, this is your 1%. Because these conversations, we turn the light switch on, it's like a light bulb moment. Hang on. Now I have a moment to reflect and take time for myself to figure out where I need a little more tuning up to do in order to grow my consistency, which equals your confidence, which entails growing your confidence.

Yeah. So we will be back next week talking about another thing that you can add to the confidence piece of this, because like I said, that's probably one of our top five questions that we get in terms of helping people grow in their confidence. Because it's not maybelline. You're not born with it. Maybe it's Maybelline. Maybe she's born with it. None of us are born with the innate ability to show up confidently in all situations. It's a muscle that we practice using these little tools and tweaks along the way.

So you got this. Wherever you are, whenever you're watching this, we hope you're having a phenomenal day and we will talk to you next Tuesday. Next Tuesday. Bye, everyone. That countdown, have a great day. In three, two, one.