Make Your Dreams Come True!

Good morning, Cadre family. I changed up my environment again today. I'm in my little living room area. I'll wait and see if anyone pops on just to make sure. We are going strong here. It's Friday, February 3. Like, what? How did that happen? I saw a really funny, like, meme or joke on social media that said Tom Brady should have announced his retirement on Groundhog day instead of the first. I thought that was really funny. All right, well, I'm gonna go ahead and get started, and I've got my little sweat romper on today.

I'm gonna go ahead and get started here and just come out with a bang. Oh, good morning, Cindy. Good morning, junk food junkie. Good morning. Oh, I love it. Okay, we've got some people on here, you guys. Okay, I'm gonna. I'm just gonna. I'm gonna hit it. I'm gonna hit you with it today. And I want to say that I was a little nervous to have this conversation today just because, you know, if we have experienced something that sends us down the shame spiral, we just kind of want to keep it inside. But I figured, what better arena to share the shame spiral than Cadre?

What's up, Luke? Good morning. All right. Usually I'm talking about making your big dreams come true, and I promise you, we're going to get there. So stay with me. I want to say it only takes a second for your life to change. Your life can change like that. My life and my big dreams were almost completely taken away from me at the end of 2022 in an instant. Let me give you the story. I am a wardrobe stylist, and I help a lot of brides find their dream ensemble and their dream shoes, their dream rehearsals in her outfit, their bridesmaids dresses, everything.

And I was with a client and friend of mine picking up her dream wedding shoes. Peter, first timer? Yes. Okay. I was with my bridal client, picking up her dream wedding shoes and her matching dream wedding clutch. I mean, if you're a woman, you understand the importance of this moment at Jimmy Choo. And I know one of the managers at Jimmy Choo because of my career as a personal shopper and stylist. And so, you know, she cracks open the bottle of champagne, and it's a whole experience. So when you spend that much money on luxury items for your dream day, they really want to make it a special day for you.

So the champagne starts getting poured. I have a glass. My friend has two glasses because it's her special day, and we had dinner plans to go across the street to a restaurant with a couple of her colleagues. She works in the liquor industry and have this, you know, amazing five course dinner at this. This restaurant. And it's the end of the year. It's just before New Year's Eve, so I didn't expect these other people to be there, but great. I love meeting new people. Amazing. So we sit down for dinner, and they want to test their signature cocktail.

Hi, Nick. They want to test their signature cocktail for the company that they work for that's on the menu of this restaurant. So they know everybody in the industry, and the drinks start coming, and the food starts coming, and we're at this really nice restaurant, and it's decorated for New Year's and Christmas, and it was just, like this whole experience. And we have this great dinner about three and a half hours later. And I just remember saying to my friend, you know, I was drinking a ton of water and eating a ton of food, but I just remember saying to my friend, don't let me forget to call an uber.

And, you know, when it's late at night and you're leaving a dinner, you don't think about the action of just getting into your car and going. Right? Like, you might say it out loud that you need to call an Uber. But does it always happen? I mean, ask yourself, right? So the valets bring up the cars, and we all just kind of get in our cars and go. Not even a minute later, I'm pulled over, and I am freaking out beside myself. 08, you are going to jail. Now, mind you, I was not drunk. I was not belligerent.

I should not have been driving, though, knowing what the state laws are here. But at that point at night, you just want to get home to your dog, and you want to get in your bed. And it's been a really long day. Not only did I work that day, but then this long three and a half hour dinner, you're just ready to get home. Well, in that instant, I'm pulled over, and the next thing you know, there are four cops behind me. And this is the first time for me. This is the very first time I have been pulled over for swerving, is what they told me.

And no idea that I swerved. And I'm sharing this very vulnerably because I went down the shame spiral after this happened. So I hope that you are feeling, feeling for me in this moment because this is scary to share on a public platform. I'm a business owner. I'm a stand up citizen. I've never been to jail, but I think it's really important to share that this can happen in an instant. Now, I did not get arrested that night. I'm gonna spare you the details, but I was incredibly respectful. I passed all the tests.

I wasn't wasted. 08, which is the limit. So if you are over that limit, you go to jail for ten days. Here in Arizona, by some grace of God or the universe, there was an angel on my shoulder who said, not today. Not today. This is not happening for you. And I was incredibly respectful and kind to the four police officers that I was so nervous to be near. But, you know, I. Luckily, I was not drunk. Luckily, I didn't hit somebody. Luckily, I didn't go to jail. Luckily, I was somehow let off the hook.

And they told me it was because of the fact that, you know, I was incredibly kind and respectful, but they were well within their rights to send me to jail. And I have never been in a situation like that in my life. I'm 41 years old, and I would like to consider myself a law abiding citizen. And in that moment, we've all done it. If you haven't done it, if you haven't gotten in the car after a drink or two, good for you. You're in the minority, because DUIs are one of the leading causes of arrest here in the United States.

And I will say that that's not the first time I've had a couple of drinks. Now, I didn't have ten drinks or anything. I had a few over the course of that time, from Jimmy Choo to dinner. But it doesn't matter. In that moment, junk food junkie. I've been there before. Besides, flashing lights in your life flashes by you quick. Yeah. Oh, my gosh. I felt in that instant, like, instance, like, I'm a business owner. I'm a partner in a company. I'm a dog mom who's gonna go home from my dog. I mean, all these things started, like, all these waves of emotion started happening for me.

And I realized, you know, when the Uber came and got me, and I was in that Uber, and I was able to breathe a sigh of relief, and I told the story to the Uber driver. I was like, I don't know what kind of angel is on my shoulder tonight, but I'm like, so grateful to be getting driven home right now and, like, going home to my dog. And then, of course, they spent the next 24 to 48 hours shame spiraling, like, I don't deserve to be here. I should have gone to jail. I could have killed somebody. You know, all of the things start flowing, flooding through your head, and you think about all of your goals, all of your dreams, all of your aspirations, everything that you want to do in this life.

It's almost like, I don't want to be dramatic, but a brush with something serious, a brush with death, that could have been. That would have been, like, the death of my company, maybe, or just my inability to get places, I would have had my license taken away, like, all the things that could have happened in that moment. And I share this with you because we are one decision or one wrong move or one positive move away from the biggest dreams and the biggest moments of our lives. Things can happen in a moment's time, and it can all be taken away, or it can all be put in front of you.

So I want to ask you today, what decisions are you making? Are they good? Are they bad? What are they to get you to the next step of positively living out your big dreams? Or are you hindering the big things that you want to do in your life? Are you living a life that is not serving you? Are you making decisions that could land you in jail? I know that's dramatic, but I will tell you, when I went home and thought about this and processed it, I mean, what do you think the first thing I wanted to do was?

I would like to know in the chat, what do you think the first decision that I made after experiencing this, to waking up no car in my driveway, having to uber to go get my car, which is one of the most shameful moments of your life. It's different when you choose to leave it, but when you have to leave it, and then you have to go back and figure out, or, like, what street was I even on? I'm so flustered, I don't even know. I didn't drop a pin. Like, I'm just lucky to be home and alive. Like, what do you think the first decision that I made was?

I want to know in the chat, anybody? Please tell me what you think. What would you do if it were you? Give it a second. When you're shame spiraling like that. Like, I need to make changes on how I decide on things. Yes. I will tell you right now. The first thing that I did was decide that alcohol is not serving me. I only drink on average, or I only did drink on average, maybe once or twice a month. And it's not sitting at home by myself opening a bottle of wine. It's socially right, because there's so much societal and social pressure to have a cocktail and other people are drinking, so they want you to partake even when you don't want to, even when you know you're not going to get a good night's rest that night.

Society expects us to be social through what we consume, what we wear. It's. It's. There's so much pressure. But don't give in to that pressure if it's not for you. And I knew for the last year, I had been saying this out loud to the people I loved. It's time for me to stop drinking. It's not serving me. I'm not sleeping well. It's keeping me up at night. It's giving me anxiety. I'm shame spiraling the next day, I feel like I lose my day, whether I have a half a sip of a drink or two drinks. And I immediately decided to stop.

December 28, 2022 was my last drink, and I'm done for now. I mean, I don't know what that means. I'm not giving myself this, like, you know, you have to stop forever. But what I did decide was, while I'm trying to live out my big dreams, and while I'm trying to accomplish things, and while I'm trying to eat, sleep, breathe, and live wellness, I am taking full control of my life, and I'm determining the outcome of my future. So what are the things that I'm doing? This is what I'm doing. I'm taking back control, and I'm removing things that make me feel out of control.

I'm owning my wellness, and I'm figuring out what is best for my body by seeing the right people, talking to the right people, watching the right things, getting the right resources. For instance, I got my hair tested yesterday because I hadn't been feeling well, and it told me what I should and shouldn't be eating, how to maximize my sleep, what to add to my diet, what types of vitamins and amino acids and aminos that I should be putting into my body. I am owning my wellness, and I am taking back control.

And the last thing I'm doing is I'm choosing joy and I'm choosing fun, and I'm choosing what I put on my calendar and my schedule to live and maximize my life so I can live out my big dreams because I can tell you right now, your decisions and how you own your life will determine whether or not those big dreams happen for you. I'm going to catch up on the chat here. Cut the fat out of my life. You got it. Decision time. When my wife and I now go out with friends, I drink coffee instead of alcohol.

Booyah. Decaf. Decaf all night. I literally am. So now I'm going down the rabbit hole of, like, what are all the cool mocktails that are out there? Because the beverage industry is taking a turn right now. They're seeing that it is trending to be consuming mocktails and drinking mocktails, and actually, in my epigenetic hair test yesterday, they eat, sleep, and breathe wellness at Golden Heart wellness here in Scottsdale, and they shared an awesome mocktail recipe with me that was actually, like, good for you, like, tart cherry mixed with ollipop.

And I got so excited about it, and I think you can still be social while taking back your health and owning it. Been doing it now for ten years. Yes. Let me tell you, I'm choosing this as a lifestyle now because it's. I know it's going to serve me. And I think that was a wink from the universe, and that was the last opportunity. Somebody close to me said, you used up your nine lives, and it was such a great way to close out the year. And what a lesson I learned. What a tough lesson I learned, but what a nudge from the universe it was to take ownership of my life, of my choices, of my decisions, of what I put in my body, so I can live my most fulfilled life.

So I encourage you. I encourage you to take back your control and to really evaluate what is hindering you and what is getting in the way of your big dreams and goals. And if you can eliminate those things, whatever they are, for you, whatever is not serving you, I can almost guarantee you you will see an instant shift in your life. The minute I decided to give up alcohol, it was like somebody took Luke's 40 pound weighted vest off my body and said, you have a new lease on life. What are you going to do with it?

And things started flooding my inbox. Orders started coming in for my product line. Relationships started getting built for Cadre. Things started happening for me the minute I shed myself of that extra weight that was getting in the way of what I needed to do and who I needed to be in order to live my most fulfilled life. Luke says, my wife and I have incredible mocktails together. I love it. No booze in the Wendland house. Doesn't serve us, and that's it. And it's easy when you have. Sometimes I shouldn't say easy, but it's nice when you have an accountability partner.

But when you live alone like me, I mean, you can. Nobody's telling you not to have that alcohol, so I think it takes an extra, extra oomph of discipline. But that's so great that you guys have each other as an accountability partner. Luke, that's so awesome. So, anyway, I don't want to hold you guys up for too long, but I thought this was a really important message to share today, and it was really on my heart, especially after getting that hair test yesterday and realizing what I need to be putting in my body and what I don't and how to maximize my sleep.

And I just thought, you know what? I need to share this message with my Cadre family, and I'm scared to do it because I don't want to be judged. But guess what? If this helps one person, I don't care about judgment. I'm over it. I don't care. We come on here to authentically share with you and to tell you what's happening to us so you can feel less shame about what's happening to you in that same moment. So I love you guys. Thank you for being my safe space to share, even when it's scary. I think it's incredibly important that we humanize ourselves and we share these scary things that happen to us.

So it gives everybody here permission to do the same and to utilize this community as a safe space to have an open heart and communicate in a way that might help one person. I love the acronym hope. Help one person every day, and I hope that I have done that for you today. So, thank you for tuning in. I hope that you have an amazing weekend. I hope that you go and you make choices that are going to serve you, and I just love you. Thank you for letting me share today. Have a great weekend. And, jungfujunkie, last comment.

And now your liver thanks you for not drinking alcohol anymore. Yes. I have never felt healthier. I have never felt healthier. I've never felt more in control, and I have never felt more powerful in my own body. And I think this is the beginning of an incredible year because I'm removing blockages and removing that. That unwanted toxicity from my life. So, thank you. Thank you for being here and sharing, you guys. I love you. Have a great weekend. I will see you soon. And don't forget to tune in to all the amazing lives we have coming down the pipeline and there's just some really exciting things happening.

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