Grief is a normal human response to loss. The only way to get through it, is to go through it. Ignoring the feelings or pushing them aside doesn't mean they go away. They'll stay inside and build up. Support and guidance help you get through it.
The speaker identifies as a grief coach and explains the range of losses they work with. They describe their mission to increase conversation about grief and why understanding it matters.
The speaker challenges the common wish to 'get over' grief, emphasizing it isn't like a cold and that you must learn to live with the change. They note that the loss becomes part of who you are.
This section tackles misunderstandings like expecting to be 'back to normal' and explains that a new normal must be found. The speaker advises acknowledging all feelings and reflecting on reality and next steps.
The speaker expresses empathy, shares that they too are experiencing struggles, and encourages self-compassion and vulnerability. They reassure listeners that feeling emotions is not weakness and invite questions about the grief journey.
The speaker challenges listeners to experience every feeling and ask what they can do now, reiterating that grief is something you learn to live with. The video ends with a friendly sign-off and encouragement to be kind to oneself.
I am a grief coach. I deal with people who are going through all kinds of loss, no matter what kind it is, whether it's related to a death, a divorce, a breakup, a job loss, a move across the country, dealing with a diagnosis. All of that is a reason to grieve. And quite often as I'm talking with people, well, first of all, we don't talk about grief enough. So that's part of my mission is to increase the conversation about grief. Because the more we understand, the more we can help each other and ourselves.
I hear people say, Oh, I wish I could just get over this. This is a fact about grief. You don't get over it. It never ends. Grief is not a cold. It's something you have to learn how to live with because whatever it is that happened, you can't undo. That will always be part of who you are. So wanting, I think a lot of the frustration and misunderstanding that people have about grief is that, Oh, I should be over this by now. I should be all better. I should be back to normal. And none of those things are true.
Normal is going to be different. You have to find a new normal. The only way you can get through your grief is to acknowledge all of the feelings you have along the way. Coming to terms with learning how to live with it. What's the reality? What do I want to do next? If you're in the midst of grief right now, I feel for you. I'm with you. I'm going through my own stuff as we speak. Give yourself some grace. Let yourself feel. And if there's something that confuses you about what the grief journey is, about the experience of going through it, I'd love to hear from you.
What is it you have questions about? What do you need to hear? What is top of mind for you? What do you need help with? There's nothing. Oh, you're not being a sissy if you feel. You're not being weak. if you feel. It takes courage to be vulnerable. So the sooner you realize that you will not get over this, that you have to learn how to live with it. So my challenge for you this week is to experience every feeling along the way and ask yourself, what can I do now? What do I want to do now? So remember, grief is not a cold.
You learn how to live with it. I'll see you next week at this same time. And every now and then I might pop in with a post with a thought that I had during the week. Till then, take care of yourself and be kind to who you are.
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