Monday Motivation: Friendship

We are back for another motivational Monday. I cannot wait to connect with all y'all. It's gonna be a fantastic day. It's gonna be a fantastic week. I have four stories that I'm gonna share with you. Each one are probably about a minute long that I believe that happened to me last week and kind of how I view friendship. And I hope, I hope that this message that you take a step back and think about your own life and think of maybe how you show up, how you connect with others, how you show up as friends, or how you'd like to show up as a friend.

Alright, so I'm going to take you through four stories. All right, so here's number one. I connected with an individual from a friend, a mutual friend who said, you have to meet this guy. You absolutely have to meet this guy. He's running the calendar every single day for the entire year. So let's take a step back, folks. Let's think about this. January 1, he ran 1 mile. January 2, he ran 2. January 7, January 7, he ran 7 miles. January 25, he ran 25. January 30, he ran 30. You get through January, you get back to February 1, you run 1 mile, you run two, you run three.

He's done that all the way until I connected with him on Thursday and he was on the 24th or 25th. Don't quote me on the date. But he told me about his process. He told me about what he does and how he ultimately is through all these miles. And he talked to me about kind of the selfish nature that he felt, you know, for the first 90 days, 1st, 180 days, and how he wants to pivot, to be able to now change his. His goal is still his goal, but how can he help somebody else achieve theirs? So instead of having this all be about inspiring and growing, which is awesome because that's number one for me with friendship.

So that's what I'm taking out of it, but also helping others and connecting with others. So he's ultimately running this big calendar deal to now shift his goal by helping other individuals achieve theirs. So to mark, you know who you are, you're absolutely amazing. You're inspiring the world, you're growing other individuals. And it is fascinating to think you're almost to September and you get a cool down and you get to do that 1 mile. So I'll be thinking of you on Friday as we get to September 1, that you only have 1 mile and the duration of September, October, November, December, you got this.

But just think about that, guys. Like, when he gets to the 25th or 26th of the month, he is literally going marathon over marathon over marathon. It is absolutely insane to think, like, what he's doing and how he's doing it. Number two, I was on the way up north with my family. Okay, good morning. Good morning, junk food junkie. Good morning. Love before hate. I love it. So here's the next one. So my wife and I were on our trek up north. My father in law, as you all are aware, is in the nursing home.

And we were driving, and we were just about 7 miles, 8 miles out of town. And we were going out of town and it was like one of those, like, out of a movie, like your, your tire pops. Like, it literally went, we could just see it and then it just showed, like, the dropping of the tire pressure monitoring system from 40 to 38 to 27. Like right before our eyes. We had 100 yards to basically get in the parking lot. And then at the parking lot, we called our onstar to see if Onstar could come and change the tire.

I'm not very handy at all. And so the onstar said they could get here, but it would be this time. We had our dogs, we had our kids. That whole entire vehicle is completely slammed. The whole entire vehicle is completely slammed. Can you believe this? Risa? Good morning, Jamie. Good morning. So like I said, we're driving up, the tire popped. Tire pops. Onstars called. They can't get there for three plus hours. So I start calling every auto repair in the phone book that's close by around the area.

I call the first one. Sorry, can't do it. Call the second one. Call the third one. Finally I get to the fourth. The fourth one. Okay, so it's 350 right before 04:00. They close at four. He said, hey, look, I'm just gonna shut down. I'm gonna shut down the shop here, and I'll be right there. Seven minutes later, ten minutes later, whatever it is, he pulls up, he comes in, he has all the tools. He lifts up the vehicle, changes the tire, flips the tire. He's on his way in ten minutes. I learned so much during this time from this guy.

I learned so much about where to put the thing, how to do this, how to do that, how to put the tire back. I was blown away, and he was so nice, and he did not have to do this at all. Business owner of this auto repair shop came out of the goodness of heart. I'm like, hey, man, is there anything I can do? Here's some cash. Here's this. Can I write you a check. And he's like, nope, I don't want a thing. I don't want a thing. Good things happen to good people. You just. You help somebody else down the road.

Pay it forward. I'm like, unbelievable. So again, number one, with Mark. Grow and inspire. Number two, flat tire guy. You help out, okay? You help out. Number three, my wife and I did this thing called thermaculture last Thursday night as our date. Right? Of all the things you can do on a date night, my wife and I went to a sauna. Cold plunge eventually, and it was ran by my buddy, JC Lippold. Okay, so JC Lippold ran this thermaculture event. It was amazing. I met some really, really cool people there that have very different aspirations and views of this world.

But he said something during our Sana experience where he talks, and while you're connecting with yourself and you're closing and you're closing your eyes and you're deep in breath, and he said, think about this. Out of the 100% of every single day that you exist, of every minute that you exist, 96% of the time, 48% of the time, we're looking back at life. 48% of the time, we're looking forward at life. And only 4% of the time, we're actually really focused on about now. And about now is the only thing you can control.

And I thought about that, and my wife and I thought about that, and we've talked about it continuously since the event about, you know, be where your feet are, be present, be right here, right now. You know, some people are so forward thinking and thinking in the future, and so many people are stuck in their past, but how can you be right here, right now and take action this minute, right now, today? So, again, we're going to circle back. Number one, that they were talking about our friendships.

Do they inspire and make you grow? Do they allow you to help each other out or help out? Do they make you think? And then last but not least is I've received three cards I've received three cards over the last week. Individual that retired from a company that I started and individual that used to be my boss from years ago in an individual that I worked with about six years ago. Right. The last thing of friendship is loyalty. And those individuals that you connect with over time ask these four questions to you.

Ask these four questions. Do they inspire me or do they make me grow? Do they inspire me or do they make me grow? Number two, are they able to help out? Do they help me out? Do they help me on the best of times, they help me. On the worst of times, number three, do they make you think. Right, because I. Growth mindset, close mindset, fixed mindset. If I don't associate myself with individuals at the growth mindset that I feel like I'm dying to. Right. And so you can have experiences. You can have those things.

But how do you shift your mind from this fixed mindset to this growth mindset? And then, last but not least, are they fiercely loyal? I know I have some friends, and I hope you do, too, that no matter where I am in this world, no matter what it looks like in this world, that I know I can call, I know I can connect, and I know right away that they'll be there to do four things with me. They'll make me think. They'll help me out, they'll help me grow, and they will be there for me. They'll be loyal.

So when you think about friendship, what does friendship look like for you when you're looking and you're aspiring for new friends? Right. So sometime in your life, there's probably, like, more is more, more is better. More is more, more is better. And then, like, the longer I live, the more I realize that I have this really certain criteria for friendship. And either individuals are in the bubble or they're out. And you can have that easy, straightforward talk, too. Right? Like, we're just going to move on and friendships have to cut off.

And I had a talk with an individual last week who was making some big, significant changes in his life with his group of friends. 25 years old, he was 25 years old. He had this, you know, he was going on to become a principal. He was moving forward with his life, and he met with this group and just said, hey, guys, like, I'm on a very different trajectory. Nothing against you. I've loved our relationships. I've loved our friendships, but I'm moving on, and that's that. And so I really, really want you to think about your friendships not only providing value, creating value, and all those things, but ask those four key components.

You know, there's trust, there's all those other things. But I think it all works out in the, in the end. When you think about these things, do they make you think? Do they help you grow? Are they helping you out? And are they fiercely loyal? Have an amazing week, y'all. I hope those conversations and messages of, let's call it identification of oneself, allows you to self reflect and think where you are in your life and where you are in your life, of your friendships. Have an amazing week. We got a killer lineup.

Talk to you soon. Bye.