Contrast and Clarity Exercise

Nick Cadre, how you doing tonight? Great to see you. I wanted to talk a little bit, and this is kind of, you know, dovetailing off of the hopes and dreams, and it's what you want versus, you know, what you have. And I had a friend mention this awesome exercise about contrast and clarity. And on the contrast side, you kind of write down your fears, like, I'm afraid I'm not going to make enough money. I'm afraid that I'm going to relapse. I'm afraid of whatever it may be. And then on the clarity side, you write kind of the positive side of that, I'm going to make more money than I need.

I'm going to stay sober, whatever it is. But then there's also that, that, that wanting and that desire. And it seems that what I've learned from hearing people talk about, like, law of attraction type stuff is that you're supposed to have the feeling of already having, and then you, then you can receive it. And I don't know how I've gotten into a law of attraction kind of amateur talk here, but I'm still learning this, this stuff myself. But it seems like something that can really work is enjoying what you have and still working for things that you don't have yet.

It just does seem that it's problematic if you're so obsessed with getting what you don't have that it can take over your life and make you kind of miserable. And I've seen that happen in my life. I've seen it happen in other people's lives. And what I've noticed with myself is that I will kind of go in a little bit in both directions over periods of time. Like, sometimes I'm striving, you know, really hard, and sometimes I'm. I'm taking it more easy. Sometimes I'm really tuned in to the goals. Sometimes I'm not.

And it seems like as long as I'm, you know, putting my best foot forward that day, you know, kind of in the, if you've read Don Miguel Ruiz's the four agreements, the last agreement is to do your best, you know, and that's going to look a lot different on different dates. And, you know, I know for myself, if I'm feeling really good, if I'm feeling, you know, I'm really clicking on all cylinders, that's where I am. That's what, that's how I like to be. I like to be that way all the time. And when I'm not, I can feel less that then if I'm tired or I'm anxious or fearful or just the biorhythms are kind of off that day and have one of those off days.

I don't like that very much, but it seems like those are the days where I've got to just chop wood and carry water and kind of somehow tune out of the brain. Because if I'm living from the heart, you know, like, those days are a lot easier. But if I'm getting bound down in the thoughts and overwhelm, you know, that's what's gonna. Gonna stop me a little bit. So, I don't know, kind of went in a few directions there, but I think there's a really great balance that can be achieved by going for what you want, but appreciating what you have and, you know, to.

I think to err on the side of the gratitude, because that. That gratitude of what you have, that gratitude of what I have is ultimately going to probably lead to more of it, whether that's a good feeling or good job, good relationships, and that kind of thing. So just a few thoughts tonight. Hope you're having a good one. Talk to you later. Bye.