What's In Your Toolbox?

What's going on? Cadre famous Tuesday. Should we say Daydream believers? I know it's backwards, but I know you can read backwards. It is like a Tuesday riddle for you. Like, what does that say in the back of my phone? Daydream believer. We're all a bunch of Daydream believers, and I believe heavily. That is exactly why we're on an app like this. Our founder, the one and only Luke Wendland, said something really incredibly profound on a call we were on the other day where he wanted to be able to open up three apps on his phone, and one of those apps was Cadre.

Like, I love that because the amount of times that I close out of 50 apps that I've been on throughout the day, it's like, d***, how do I simplify my life? And I think that really leads into the overall mission and vision of what Cadre is. We want this to be a one stop shop for your mental health and wellness, and to stick to that, to Daydream believe that that's possible in order to minimize distractions and turn off some of the news. We're at such a tipping point for our country, for our world, in terms of just the amount of news that we ingest on a daily basis and what that does to our psyche.

And that is a whole other subject that we don't have planned for today. We actually have something planned for today, which, honestly, is. It's right in line. It's right in line. No, I was also going to say that this is an app where you get to check in with yourself, what do you need? And just know that there are content creators at your fingertips, with you in mind and your wellness in mind. We all have sad and bad days, or we all have days where we're just lit up and we need more positivity to keep our fire burning.

So happy you guys are here. And we're stoked to be having this conversation today because, little secret, we're going through something similar. Well, and I think that's what we have come to determine. We don't plan a lot of these our lives, which a can bite us in the a**. I want to be hot about that. Humble, open, and transparent. Sometimes if you don't plan, then the plan works. You. You're not working the plan. The plan is working you. And we can get on here and ramble. But realistically, a lot of the time, we don't plan.

We like to take real world scenarios from what's going on in our life. And this has been something that's played out for us over the past couple of, I'd say months, honestly, but really came to a head yesterday. And we've likened it to a relationship like the breakup phase. Like, do you know when you're trying to break up with somebody and then you kind of question it because they say something that makes you reconsider and then you, like, you know, recommit to the commitment, and then a few months later, you're just having the same conversation with your momming up.

D*** it, I should have done that two months ago. Now we're here again, and it feels like a waste or it feels. You feel frustrated. This is a situation for us in business. So we've had. We've worked with a strategy team for the last two and a half years. They've been incredible for us. They've helped us do so much in terms of building our foundation and setting up systems and really dreaming big about what we could do for our business. Yes. And I'm going to pause right there, because if you don't know who we are, Jill, will you introduce us?

Yes. Hi, everyone. I'm Jill. This is Mary. We are best friends and business partners, and we own a company called Girls Mentorship. Think of it as a girl empowerment company where we get to teach life and personal development skills to teen and tween girls, basically helping them people better. But not only girls. We also get to work with girls who love the girls. So parents, teachers, adults, truly you on the other screen, have a girl in your life that you also are impacting, whether it is a niece, a daughter, a friend of a friend.

We all can be better for the next generation. And there's a little girl or boy inside each one of you. So what we've really also come to recognize within this work is that everybody needs to people better. Everyone needs to learn how to people better. So it's been such a joy to do this work, not only for our target demographic, but for everyone around the target demographic as well. So back to the story. Our strategy team has been integral for our growth in these first couple years of business. We're about three years old.

They've been with us for the last two, two and a half. So they think of it this way. Tuesday toolbox. Heck, yeah. So they have really helped us design and build an incredible website. They've helped us strategize live events. We throw workshops and summer camps. They've helped us with the logistics of those things. But recently, we've felt a disconnect from them. There's been a couple of underhanded comments made. There's just been some disagreements in terms of, like, our vision and where we see this.

This ship going, and nothing big, but things that Jill and I have taken away from our interactions and discussed as the CEO's of this company, in terms of how we want to move forward, have had the breakup conversation between the two of us around this company a total of two times. And then the third one, they say it's a charm, was where we took action. So it can be very easy. The. The point of this conversation, it can be really easy to go along, to get along, to do things that you're used to doing, because you're used to doing them, even if they cause you minor uncomfortability tendencies or even inner turmoil, where you're like, this is just kind of how it is.

I'm okay with the resentment building. I can kind of push it down or compartmentalize and put it on the shelf and be okay. But really, I'm not super happy in the partnership that I'm in. Fill in the blank. How many of you have ever said, well, I made this bed, so I have to lie in it, because I've said that to myself several times. Whether it's in a personal relationship, a situationship, whatever, I've gotten myself involved in a job. I think of my mom, who was a teacher for 30 years, who was so unhappy, but she's like, well, that's really the only thing.

It's the only thing that I ever went to school for. What else would I be good at? And she grinded it out for 30 years. Yikes. Talk about apartment. We've all been there in some way, shape, or form going along to get along. I want to get back to that. It can be easy to do this thing because, a, it doesn't ruffle feathers, it doesn't cause uncomfortable conversations to pop up. But really, we're looking at the short term benefit, not the long term gain, and we want to look at the long term gain. So our challenge to you, what we really want to empower and inspire you to do today, is do an audit of your life.

It doesn't have to be every day. It can be as an individual, it can be as a corporation, a company, and it can be as a family. But I think. We think that it's very important to do a quarterly audit of what's working and what's not working for your personal life, for your business life, for your relationships, and to slice and dice accordingly. And how. Okay, so a quarterly audit sounds awesome. Well, how do I do that? And what we like to do is what's called the joy or drain list. What are the things in your life that bring you joy, that light you up?

I mean, literally, you can look at your calendar, you can look at your day to day tasks. What are the things that bring you joy? What are the things that are absolutely draining you? And really, that's the area that you need to focus on, because it's robbing you of your joy. And if you can trim some of the fat or have a hard conversation to let potentially something go, you're inviting them that space for new possibilities that can then shift over into that joy side. So if you're thinking of, okay, cool, I'm gonna do that quarterly audit, I'm gonna do a joy or drain list and figure out, okay, what is working for me, what isn't.

And then our last one is, well, I wanna, before we get to our last one, I wanna talk about that, because we also did an incredible video a couple of months ago called dad. Dad. It. It stands for delete, automate, delegate. So if something's not bringing you joy, you can look at that as a potential. Does it even need to exist in my life anymore? Can I delete or eliminate it entirely? If I still need to do it, can I automate the process? Can I make it easier? Or can I delegate it to something else?

Now, obviously, if we're talking about, like, homework, we can't delegate that or automate it. We gotta do it if we're in school, we gotta write the paper. Now, can it be made easier with things like AI? Heck yes, it can. Can you bring other people in, like mom or dad, to help you with the equation? 100% you can. You have to understand that there are gonna be things on the drain list that you have to, to do. Right. But you can also look at the things that you don't necessarily have to do under the lens of dad.

So delete, automate, or delegate. So if you need to look back at that video, it's literally called datit d a d it. And the last thing is really simple. Simple does not mean easy. I want to reiterate that simple does not mean easy, but it's simple. And it's to step outside your comfort zone. I want to read something that we wrote down on this earlier challenge. You want to identify so challenge something, a belief that you've held, at least one thing that you've been avoiding because it's uncomfortable but absolutely necessary for growth.

It might be a conversation with a friend who's been distant or reconsidering an extracurricular activity. That's because become more of a chore. What's the next step? You have to take action on that in the next 48 hours. So we want to push you outside of your comfort zone. Is it a coworker? Is it a friend? Is it an activity? Is it something that you're just doing? Is it something that you're going to get along? Like there are several habit or behaviors that you have that aren't serving you well.

I love this point because when we do look at that, when we create our joy and drain life, those drains can feel overwhelming. And to Mary's point, how do you look at the thing that's going to push you into the next version that you're becoming and start there? But keep it simple. You don't need to try to tackle the entire list to shift them into the joy list. What is one thing on your list? Keep it simple. But what is it that is going to push you outside of your comfort zone to make you grow the most so that you can take off that weighted vest that's been weighing you down so that you feel free and light to then continue to move in the direction of your goals?

Just as a quick story, I have a girlfriend who works somewhere that I used to work. I quit last year in order to do full time self employment entrepreneurship with this one in our business. And she's there. She's still there. It's been great. But in the last six months it has not been great. And we've had several conversations about what she can do in order to improve her headspace and work space experience. And she's exhausted all of those avenues, yet she's made excuses to stay because it's comfortable.

She's been there for the last two and a half years. Yada, yada. My last text message to her, she said, I have a meeting with my boss and I need clarification on a couple of things to figure out whether we're going to move forward or not. And I said, you know what? You know what I think? Nobody's asking, but here's what I think. I don't think you need clarification. I think you're going to wind back up at this crossroads again in a month, regardless of the outcome of this meeting and whatever clarity was provided to you because you have these feelings of resentment and it built up enough for this to be uncomfortable and to continue to poke you and poke you and poke you to where you're constantly thinking about it.

And when you're constantly thinking about something, you're putting your brain in a state of super high beta where you're almost in fight or flight. So your cortisol's going, it's crazy. It's telling you that something is wrong and you're ignoring it. So each time you walk in that building and you see that co worker, you see that boss, your fight or flight signals are just screaming at you because your body knows that something is off and your brain is trying to tell your body that that is not the case.

So I said, you don't need clarification. I think that you need to quit. And of course, you guys, that is easier said than done. A lot of people like to have a plan. Some people just do things well, 2 hours later, I got a text and she said, you're right, and I just quit. I don't feel great about it, but I know it's going to create the space that I need in order to thrive. So to tie this conversation up in a pretty little bow, us letting go of our strategy team, do you know what our palms are? They are wide open for opportunity because we created space in our business to bring in new energy, new perspectives, and new people to work with in this next phase of our business.

So are we sad because we let something go? Absolutely. But two things can coexist. Sad can coexist with excitement for what the future looks like. And we want you to take that away in terms of this conversation. And we're super excited to hear your thoughts. What story did you see yourself in? Let us know in the comments, let us know what you're growing into. But you first have to let go of it. You gotta let go of it, and before you let go of it, you even gotta notice it. So we're really excited to be on this journey with you, and we're right there alongside you going through it as well.

But the thing about Cadre is that we aren't stagnant people. We're on this app because we are growing into the best version of ourselves and we're going to have lots of evolutions of what that looks like. And it is uncomfortable. It is hard, but we're going to do it together. So let us know in the comments, what are you letting go of? What's the uncomfortable thing that you haven't faced? Because it's uncomfortable. 100%. So with that, everyone, thanks for tuning in to toolbox Tuesdays. And we can't wait to see you again next week.

We can't wait to see you again next week and on the community feed. And if you haven't noticed, there are several new creators on this app. What's going on, Chris? Catching us at the tails. Nice to see you. There are so many new faces on this app, really getting into their expertise. It's been so fun to pop into lives and just listen to people's lived experience. I also think what's really amazing about this app is we are no better off than you are. We're just here talking about real life experiences, hoping that it impacts and improves your day as well.

So, with that being said, y'all go out there, be some daydream believers. Go take what you learned here and change somebody's life.