Exercise Your Influence

Well, happy Tuesday, everybody. JC Lippold here, if we haven't met yet, thanks for sharing some space together. All week long, we are talking about influence in a culture that has invented this idea of influencer, people who have influence. Conversely, it's created the idea that, well, if there's people with influence, if you're not those people, you must not have influence. I think a lot of us exist in that mindset, probably unconsciously. So all week long, you'll find me right here on Cadre Live, inviting you through some tactical and practical ways to exercise your influence.

Yesterday, I invited you to think and write down five people in your world who you know that you have influence over, people who care about you and people who you care about. People maybe who you're related to or you live with or are your neighbors or coworkers or your long term friends, or people that you've gone through really hard or really powerful, memorable stuff with. Even writing down a list of people who you have influence over starts to invite the idea of, what do you do with that influence?

How do you exercise it? Right. Luke says, I'm exercising my influence today, period. It takes a little bit of conscious activity to do that thing. So today, I invite you to think about trust. No kidding. So often presenting in a space like this, I often think about the last thing I did before I hit go live. And most of the time, it applies to what we're talking about. So I messaged my friend Allison at the store. I was like, hey, I need a new coat size large. She's like, here's a picture of a coat.

I'm like, great, can you send it to me? She rung me up, and my code is in the mail. Now people may go, aren't you gonna try it on? Aren't you gonna take a little bit more time to discern your purchase? And I go, no, I trust Allison. Allison knows if I go, hey, I need a coat, Allison is going to. Because Alison cares about me. Allison knows me. Allison's gonna do the work to make sure that I get a coat that I probably like. Alison is risking to trust that her investment in me is going to lead me to what I need to, what I want from her.

In this exchange, the amount of time that I got back in my day trusting Alison, Allison has a lot of influence on me through that exchange of trust. You know, I lead an event every month for the last 86 months. Next month will be the last time I lead this connection and movement event where we're calling it quits and every single time, at the end of these connection and movement events, a room full of people who don't know each other yet. You may call them strangers, I call them people who do not know each other yet.

Some of them are five years old, some of them are 85 years old. Some of them are Olympians. Some of them are people who have. Who have never felt safe to move their body in a way that they would consider themselves to be athlete or athletic. This room full of people move together for an hour, and then we say, we'll see you next month. We've done this ever since October 2016. At the beginning of each of these events, I do a quick little raise of hands, and I go, hey, how many of you have never been to one of these events before?

Probably about half of those people in that room raise their hand. So if there's 100 people, 50 people raise their hands. And then I ask a second question and I go, how many of you, whether you've been here a hundred times, or whether you've been here this first time, are here because someone who you trust said, hey, come do this thing with me. They don't have yet. Just come with me. Normally, about 75% of people raise their hands, and I go, think about that. This event that you've either never been to before or is always changing space and changing modalities of movement and connection, changing times of the week.

Nothing is staying consistent about these events except the connectivity of energy and influence that these people share. Most of these people are connected through one person, initially, that person who says, come do this thing with me, trust me, I think it's going to be good for you. I think you're going to enjoy it. And then this group of people makes connections with each other and they go, ah, through that one layer and lens of trust, all of a sudden, they go, I find what I'm looking for. Where does that start?

It starts with someone thinking that they have enough in themselves to influence someone else to say, hey, person I care about, will you come do this thing with me? Yeah. Jill and Mary say, we love those people. And I would say the we. I would. I would love to make that statement. Be, the world loves those people. Those people who are doing the due diligence of going, huh, I'm thinking about someone else right now, which is a big, big act to consider all of the realities. Think about Allison, who chose my coach today.

For me, that's a loaded question for JC to ask. Allison. Hey, Allison, I need a coat size large. And Allison said, here's a picture of a coat and I go, okay, charge me. Send it to me. Yeah. I'm being brave in accepting Alison's perspective, Allison's judgment, Allison's taste. Think what Allison is having to do to go. I believe that my perspective, my investment, my care within this person is going to be impactful enough to make them move. Now, consider yourself. Who are those people that you think about, that you care about, to the place that you are thinking of?

The good, the bad, the realities, the implications of. How do you exercise that influence today? If you tuned into yesterday's call, great. If you didn't, wonderful. Consider one 2915. How many other people come to mind? If no one comes to mind, consider the idea, who is someone that you can go, hey, you. I've been thinking about you, and I think x. And I'll even make it simpler. You could stop at hey, person. I've been thinking about you, period. That will influence their day. That will change the way they consider the implication of their placement in the world.

When you know that people care about you, when you know that people are thinking about you, you start to realize that when what you. You do and how you exist affects other people. That's why hopping on a screen right now, I'm considering that there may be something here that may be needed there. Now it's your turn. I'll be bopping on tomorrow and throughout the rest of this week to talk about exercising your influence. This is all going to lead up to you having an opportunity to exercise your influence, to grow this wonderful opportunity that you're finding right here at Cadre with those people who, you know, who maybe need it.

Need it for big, for small, for deep, intrinsic, for light, for joy. So consider these things. Reach out. If it's helpful, I'm here. I'd love to chat with you. Have a good rest of your day. We'll see you tomorrow. Bye. Bye, Marisa. Bye, Jill. Bye, Mary. Bye, Luke.