Tales Of Leadership: Fresh Starts

It's Sunday. Cadre crew. Oh, what a great day. I hope everybody's doing well. Hopefully you had an opportunity to enjoy some time with your family, friends, your kids, your loved ones, maybe getting some time away from work if those individuals are still working, kudos to you. If you're in the healthcare space and working the weekends and working overnights and doing whatever it takes to support individuals, our hats go out to you. For those educated teachers and those individuals in the healthcare space that are coming back next week, you know, with flu, rampant upper respiratory infections, you name it, giving all you have for the communities that you work in and or the communities that you help represent and serve, hats off to you as well.

For everybody else. Another day, another dollar, right? Fresh starts. This is a fun one. This is a really, really, really fun one. Tales of leadership fresh starts. I'm going to take you through, you know, three different decades in my life, okay? And I'm going to just kind of have you go where my mindset was and why it's so important as we think of fresh starts. In my twenties, I thought I was going to be a teaching pro in tennis. In working with some of the most advanced teens, kids, college athletics of individuals that wanted to be the next Andre Agassi or Rafael Nadal.

That was my dream. That's what I wanted to do. I wanted to be a teaching pro, being able to help individuals at that capacity. Tennis was in my blood. Tennis is still, it surrounds me with all my relationships that I still have today. And so tennis is one of those things that has given me blood in my personal life, my professional life. During my twenties, I thought for sure this was it. In my twenties, I was like, I'm gonna be a teaching pro in my life, work with some of the best, and blah, blah, blah, blah.

That changed, right? So I wrapped up school in my mid twenties, I wrapped up, I did my MBA, I received another master's. I was accepted into doctorate program for organizational development. Ultimately then wanted to work in corporate America and live out the american dream, the white picket fence, working your nine to five, Monday through Friday while making good money. And I started that. I started working at that level. Fortune 500, Fortune 1000 company, being able to grow and develop and learn what it took to work in corporate America in this life.

Jumping from teaching pro working to corporate America to finally in my late thirties. So think of this span of 510, 1520 years to ultimately work in the healthcare space. And as far as the healthcare is concerned, specifically mental health, substance abuse, wellness, you name it, think brick and mortar, one to one services group settings, large residential treatment programs, developing suboxone maintenance. Suboxone maintenance is where we help individuals suffering with opioid use disorder, helping build and grow a mental health services clinic, trying to establish yourself and continue to evolve and develop.

And if I level set and I level set all my fresh starts, what was the one question that I always wanted to ask myself, truly, do I love doing this? And b, am I helping people when I do it and helping people at the level that I want to? So my fresh starts have consistently allowed myself to grow, you know, over and over and again. If I grow working for somebody, supporting another individual's business, working in corporate America, working my rank up to ultimately owning and operating my own organization.

And so when you get your fresh starts, I think there's three questions that you really, really have to ask yourself. Do I love what I'm doing? Checkbox one, do I love what I'm doing? Am I passionate about the work that I'm doing? Because loving and passioning are two different things. And last but not least is could I see myself doing this work three years from now? Do I love the work? Am I extremely passionate about it? Because passion means you're going to look to diversify, live, eat and breathe, and almost kind of, kind of obsessed with it.

And then do you establish yourself? You know, ultimately, do you want to keep going in that realm? And will you be there for a while? Can you span the test of time for 2345 years? Those are questions that you have to ask as you enter new fresh starts. Okay. And now to the flip side of the coin, what I want to ask you about is like the here and now. If you're involved in something, right, and something might not be going your way and you're having this, like, you know, fresh start, I had a really, really tough time with my partners.

Good. Say this to yourself. I. Good. I'm glad that I had a difficult time. Good. This is good. I struggled with a friendship. My taxes are more than I thought they would be come April. My home mortgage is taking more than I thought it would. I didn't finish the grad school that I thought I would say, say good at the end of things that didn't go well and you can turn them into fresh starts. My peloton streak I'm throwing for those individuals that have pelotons. My peloton streak ended at twelve.

Good, good. It ended. It ended at twelve. Let's build a new record. Let's go to 13. Let's go to 14. Let's go to 15. Your fresh starts. Everything that can possibly happen can be a new fresh start. I've been struggling with alcohol and I fell off the wagon and I had a couple nights. Good. Good. It's a new fresh start for me. We can start now. We can do what we need to do to get back on the train. It's a good. Let's go. My New Year's resolution. Five years in, I already fell off. Good. Good. Let's start new habits.

The habit tracker that I have, my watch broke. My this, my this. Whatever it is, end it with good. You gotta shift your mindset. There's two different types of people in this world. They're victims or victors. Or do you want to turn yourself into a victim? Or do you want to continue to be a victor? Very few victors in this world. How about I got. Good evening, Luke. How about I got hacked and stolen from this? A fresh start? You dang right. Maybe. Let's rephrase this. How about I got hacked and stolen from.

Is this a fresh start? Let's find a good out of here. Good. Now it's my time to identify identity theft and make sure that I have something to protect myself so it doesn't happen worse next time. Good. I'm paraphrasing. I have no idea your circumstance. I have no idea the amount of money. I have no clue. But I'm just saying, more often than not, we've got to find a way to come out of things with a new fresh start. And maybe there's some way that you can rephrase this in your brain, in your mindset that it's a good fresh start for you.

There's some obvious ones. Trauma, grief, loss to the extreme of acute conditions, etcetera. I'm not saying every single thing on earth is a good, but there are some wonderful things that can come out of you. Reframe your brain from being a victim or victorian. So think about that as you continue on your day to day. Okay? With that being said, guys, I just wanted to talk about fresh starts today. I just want to take you through some decades in my life that hopefully resonated with you. Or maybe if you're in your twenties, your thirties, your forties right now, and you're working for XYZ company and operation, maybe this is an opportunity to ask for more.

Can I try this? Can you give me this? Could I try XYZ? Maybe I want to branch off into this side of the business. Put yourself out there. You never know what might come out of it. Working on it. Would like to walk away from victim mentality. That's good. That's good. Speak wonder. I'm glad that you're saying that. And like I said, I have no idea the circumstance that's surrounding it. I don't want to say every single thing out there in the world is a victim, because there are victims. There's a lot of them.

But I think there's also times to be a victorian, so I hope that makes sense. I don't want to come across rash or hard either. But with that being said, guys, I do need to zoom. My father in law is at the hospital right now in the ICU, so I'm heading back over. But I just wanted to talk a little bit about fresh starts tonight, and I think how important they are in your life, especially as you continue to move through a variety of different things. Because we all change. All human beings change over time.

And so as we change, I think you can evolve, develop and grow. And when you evolve and develop and grow, you might find fresh starts out of things that maybe just aren't going your way. So have a wonderful, wonderful week, y'all. Start off this week strong. Do something special. Help somebody. Show up for somebody. Do something nice for the world. Okay, everybody, thanks for joining in. Jo Pa, joy and speak wonderful.