Coffee Chat w/ Dr. D

Hey, Cadre. My apologies for being a little late. I think I have my mic up the right direction. It has been morning. It's noon, where I am central standard time. But the topic that I wanted to talk about today, I'm going to pivot, because life is just throwing some things at me that I think is important to share because I know I'm not the only one. So to let you guys know what's going on, give you some insight to the world of doctor D today. But again, welcome to my coffee chat. So this morning, I had a schedule, I had plans.

I had a pretty easy day scheduled. And where I'm located right now, it is storming, and we have flash flood warnings. Hello. Welcome. So it is, like, really chaotic where I am. So there's floods all in the streets. The power is out at different restaurants, you know, in different pockets of the communities where I live. The power is just gone. So, of course, that is interrupting, like, wi fi services. And people are really struggling today. And so for me, I woke up, you know, got ready, got my day going, and there's flooding inside the building.

So there's water everywhere. I mean, I mean, everywhere, like, every room you can imagine. So I'm mopping up, you know, I'm getting towels, and of course, my boo is here. So we're tag teaming on this. Right. It's a lot of work to do for just one person, so I'm so grateful that he's here. But at the same time, my son is not feeling well, and he's learning how to be an adulthood. So he's trying to find his insurance card and call and make an appointment for urgent care and all these things. And it's really cool to see that he's trying to do that, but he still needs a little bit assistance.

So here I am, trying to clean, right, trying to mop up the mess, trying to help my son navigate life while also preparing for this coffee chat. So here I am, looking a hot mess today, but I am here. And so I wanted to talk about, you know, the stress that we experience when we are in moments of chaos. And just to take a moment, and I'm going to take a moment for myself just to breathe. Okay, so when we are in these moments of chaos, what does that feel like? For me personally, I get this rush of emotions, like a rush of energy.

Like, my thoughts are all over the place because I'm a fixer. But there's a problem. I'm like, okay, how do I fix this? How do I navigate everything that's going on. Not just navigate the problem and fix the problem, but how am I managing the people around me that are also stressed? Because when there's chaos, you're not the only one that's going through it. Right? If y'all agree with that, drop your little coffee mug in there for me. But it is. It's overwhelming sometimes. And so, personally, I get this rush of energy.

I get lots of racing thoughts, like, not racing thoughts, like, I'm worried, but just trying to figure out what do I do next? What is a priority? Who needs my attention right now? And so, in the midst of all that, you can somewhat lose focus on yourself. What do you need to? And so just experiencing this, literally just two minutes before I logged in here today, it made me think about who is the person that I go to or people that I go to when I'm in moments of chaos? Who are my people that are grounded, that are safe spaces that keep me level when my energy is up and down.

And so I want you to consider that for yourself. Who is in your life, in your corner, who, when you are feeling like you're spinning and you can't find your grounding, who is that person that you go to that knows how to talk to you, how to speak to your heart, how to calm you down in the midst of the storm? And that's where I am. I'm literally in a storm right now. There's storms right outside this window that I'm looking at right now, and I'm thinking of, you know, I'm so grateful for my boothang here that keeps me grounded, you know, and we keep each other grounded.

And I think that's so important to know who you're connected to, because the relationships that you're in when there's moments of chaos, can you trust those people to keep you grounded and keep you level and keep you safe so you don't act out of fear, so you don't act in impulse and make some poor decisions. Even thinking about when you're in moments of chaos where you want to hold back. Because sometimes we don't want to fight what's happening. We want to run away from it. So who are those people in your corner who are going to push you forward when you are wanting to just be still or to pull back away from the situation that's causing you chaos in your life?

Who are those people? Right? I want you to consider if there are people in your life who are creating chaos in your life, who's part of your storm, who is the storm in your life? Right. Can you decide that those people that are causing storms in your life that you don't have to stay attached to, that you may not be able to control them, but you can control yourself in the storm? We can't control the storm, but we can control ourselves. Okay, high speak wonder. So that is just a little nugget that I want to drop today because that's real life today.

That is where I am, and I don't know what's gonna happen next. I'm kind of waiting to see how the problems that I told you guys about with the flooding and my son being sick, how those are gonna pan out. And just to think about it, like, I have no control over that. I have no control overdem the time of when things get addressed. I have no control over how it actually ends up. Like there might be more damage. I don't have control over that. I can try to stop things, but ultimately I don't have full control.

And so how can I control myself and who is in my corner to help me stay grounded so I can stay in control? So I hope that speaks to you guys. If you have anything you want to share, drop it in there. And I think I will come back. I'll just put it on my calendar to revisit the topic. I wanted to talk about the stages of change and how that impacts us when we are in different spaces with the stages of change with people in our lives, and we're expecting them to be on page with us and how that just doesn't always happen.

So I'm glad you guys were able to tune in. I hope this blessed you today and I hope you guys aren't dealing with any storms or any chaos, but have a wonderful day. Bye.