Dr. D explores the emotional experience of letting go, naming fear, shame, failure and confusion while reading a daily quote from RH Sin’s Year of Letting Go. He invites listeners to reflect and share what letting go feels like.
Dr. D. wants to talk about what that feels like to let go, the pain of letting go. He recommends a book called the Year of Letting Go by RH Sin. And he wants you to chime in and let him know what it feels like.
Your question for the week: What do you need to let go of? Can we open ourselves up to new beginnings? Think about getting this book, too. It says, the Year of letting go. 365 days of pursuing Emotional Freedom.
Hello, Cadre. It's me, Dr. D. Welcome to my coffee chat. So there's a lot on my mind today, and I just got out of a session, and that's usual for me. And I wanted to visit this topic of letting go and the pain of letting go. This is a. I think I would still consider this the beginning of the year, right? And we are in this process of change. For some people, it's considered a new beginning, which I love. I love the beginning of the year to kind of start doing new things. And I think I told you guys before in other chats that, you know, I like to kind of purge and let go of some things.
You know, I started going through my closet or, you know, finding old journals or finding old things that I'm, like, thinking about, why am I holding on to this? It's time to let it go. And there are some things that are a little painful to let go. Hello, everybody. Coming in. And so I want to talk about what that feels like to let go, the pain of letting go. And so as you're joining me, let me know where you're. You're joining from, like, what city you're in, what state you're in. But I also want you to chime in the chat and let me know what it feels like for you to let go.
Whether it's letting go of a relationship, letting go of your dreams, letting go of fear, letting go of whatever that thing is that you've been holding on to. What does that feel like? Okay, how does it feel to let go? I think for some of us, it can be scary to let go because we don't know what's going to happen next. Right? The fear of the unknown. I think sometimes the pain of letting go includes this feeling of shame. Maybe there's shame attached to. If I let go of this relationship, I'm ashamed of the reason why I have to let go.
Maybe I'm letting this go because I messed up. Maybe I'm letting this go because I keep hurting someone and I don't want to keep doing that. And I'm ashamed of my own behavior in this process of letting go. Maybe the pain of letting go feels like failure. I have to let this go because I can't do it. I just can't do it anymore, whether that's a job or a relationship, whatever that thing is. But you might feel like a failure or that you failed at the thing that you wanted to keep for so long. And I think sometimes the pain of letting go includes confusion.
Well, do I really have to let this go. Why do I have to let this go? I'm confused by this. I'm confused by if I. If I let this go, what does that say about me, right? And so I want to read something to you guys. I actually, one of my clients recommended this book to me, so I wanted to just kind of take a look at it. But it's called the Year of Letting Go by RH Sin. I'll show it's probably backwards to you guys, but that's the COVID And there's like a little quote, you know, or saying every day of the year.
And so I'll read. It's actually the. The statement for tomorrow's date, January 29th, that I thought was pretty fitting, but it's talking about crying. And so the quote says, sometimes crying means letting go. Sometimes the only way to empty yourself of a person is to cry them out of your heart. And I want you to put in the space where it says person with whatever that thing is that you need to let go of, whether it's a dream that you've had, it's a job, it's any type of connection. It could also be the idea of what you thought your relationship should look like, being able to let that go.
And so it goes on to say the act of crying is often associated with weakness. But that idea is all wrong. Crying is a riverway to an ocean of freedom. Crying is an attempt at releasing the things that are causing pain, the things that are keeping you stuck in the pits of heartbreak. When you cry, you distance yourself from all the things that do not deserve to keep you from experiencing peace and joy. When you cry, you are strengthening your heart to go on without the things you thought you needed and the people you thought would always love you.
I'm going to read that last sentence again. When you cry, you are strengthening your heart to go on without the things that you thought you needed and the people you thought would always love you. So consider, are there people that you're holding on to? And that can be romantic. It can be a friendship. It can be even family members, right? Sometimes we have to let go of family, and that hurts. But there's that pain in letting go. And so consider, do you just need to cry it out and release it in some way?
And I know I've done that for myself sometimes where I've held onto a relationship too long. And even in the process of holding on, I had to cry it out. I had to release what was inside of me. I had to release the pain that was there, I had to release through my tears the fear of letting go of that relationship because I didn't know what was going to happen next. I didn't know if I would kind of return to my traditional cycle of I'm going to let you go, but I want you to come back and I'm going to keep the door open.
I'm keep it cracked so you can come back. You know, like when we're in those toxic spaces of trying to let go of things that are not healthy for us or that are hurting us, but we keep the door open for those things or those people to return to our lives, you know, that's where that toxic cycle comes in. And so I want you to imagine for a moment, how can it feel? Does it have to feel so painful to let go? Or is there a positive emotion that can be connected to letting go of things or people? And so I want you to consider the following.
You know, can we instead choose to feel freedom as mentioned in the book? Right? Can we choose to feel peace when we let go of what no longer serves us? Can we choose to feel excitement for a new beginning? Can we be excited in letting go? Letting go doesn't have to feel painful. It might hurt for a little bit because we're maybe experiencing the process of grief. Like letting go is grieving, right? Even if it's letting go of someone who's still alive, right? There's still grief associated with that, but it doesn't have to be painful.
We can choose to experience joy in that process. We can choose to experience peace in. In that process. It's all about, what do you want? Right? And so your question for the day, and this is for the week, I want you to focus on this. I want you to consider what or who do you need to let go of? Do you need to let go of a toxic partner? Do you need to let go of a dream you've been holding on to, just holding on for years and years and years, and it's just not happening? And the pain of thinking about letting go that.
That hurts so bad that you just want to hold on to the idea of this dream? Do you need to let go of the possibility of having more children or having a child or the. The way you thought your child should turn out? Do you need to let go of that idea? Do you need to let go of an old part of yourself that when you have memories, it's painful. You have memories of who you used to be, but you're still holding on to who you used to be. Can we let go of that part of ourselves? Can we open ourselves up to new beginnings?
That's your challenge for the week. So think about getting this book, too. It's pretty helpful. I like it. It says, the Year of letting go. 365 days of pursuing Emotional Freedom. Check it out. Let me know what you think. But I do want to thank you all for joining me today. And don't forget to get your coffee today. And I'm cheating, y'all. I got my coffee mug, but I was a little thirsty. Too thirsty for coffee. So I got some juice in here. Don't tell nobody, but yeah, it was good. Thank you guys for joining me.
And I will see you next week. Have a good day. Bye.
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