J.C. explores the outward-facing clique model, explaining how long-term group membership shifts focus from insiders to welcoming newcomers and how communities can activate that mindset when things go wrong.
Every morning around 7:30 Central Standard Time. You can check out Dr. Leslie Davis at the top of midday today. If you're not doing great, always please remember that that is a okay as well. There's many ways to be well.
Normally on Tuesdays we talk about relationships on community development. I always talk about the idea of the outward facing click. The longer you're a part of something, the less it's about you and more about people. We'd love for you to consider if this is something that you're looking for.
What happens when you are a part of a business, a team, an organization, a community, a club, any type of entity where people rally around or find solace or connectivity together? In those moments, the outward facing click model is really, really powerful to help you acknowledge, to heal, to move forward.
How do we activate this community that is by definition thinking about each other and thinking about those who are yet to be a part of it? How do we use that model when things go wrong and things go bad? Dr. Leslie will be with you at noon Central Standard Time talking about the power of that one on one relationship.
Well, hey there. Good morning, Cadre. How are we doing today? I hope you're doing great. I really, really, really do. But if you're not doing great, always please remember that that is a okay as well. It's not be great. But if you're not great, that's okay. It's no if you're great work from being great, if you are not doing great work from a state of not being great. C. and every single day in the morning around 7:30 Central Standard Time, please settle in to please know that you can settle into knowing that we'll always be here every morning, whether it's your first time in the Cadre sphere or your millionth, to go ahead and settle in to saying, ah, that's right.
I always have this space reminding me that there's many ways to be well. Good morning, Chris Fortman. Good morning, Dr. Leslie Davis, y' all. You can check out Dr. Leslie Davis at the top of midday today. Normally on Tuesdays we talk about relationships on community development, whether that relationship be one on one or whether that relationship be one on many or that relationship on many on many. I always talk about the idea of the outward facing click. Jules. Good morning, my friend. The outward facing click, right?
So often when people care about things, they focus so much on the people they care about it with and on the thing that they face inward. That's what a click is, right? And in our culture, click is often pretty universally a negative thing. But what if we took that thing, people loving each other and loving something, and then turned that outward and said, hey, you want to know what we are going to create as many doorways, as many pathways, and as much sound saying to those who are not a part of this group yet, hey, hey you.
Do you see us? Do you hear us? We'd love for you to consider if this is something that you're looking for and something that may make your life better. This is always the headline that I give with the outward facing climate concept. The longer you're a part of something, the less it's about you and the more that it's about people. People that are yet to be a part of it. Initially, we may go, that sounds like a, like a lame deal. No, if I'm a part of something for a long time, I want to feel like it's about me.
But I ask you, do you really if you care about something a lot and the impact that it's had on you and the impact that can have on the world, I think by definition that means that you want it to be about the people who are not there yet. Now, it doesn't mean that you are no longer important. What it means is that your importance shifts from being the person who is always at the center of the attention to being the person who's creating the center for other people to find, to create a growing sustainable community.
Here's my thought for you today. What happens when you are a part of a business, a team, an organization, a community, a club, any type of entity where people rally around or find solace or connectivity together? What happens when all of a sudden that community is shook or someone in that community is shook? So often our nervous system invites us to the boson, the fight, or the flight or the freeze, and all of a sudden we lose our lens, we lose our sight, our sound, our senses, to what we're doing and to who is affected by it.
In those moments, the outward facing click model is really, really powerful to help you acknowledge, to heal, to move forward, to do the things you need to do. But I'll tell you that first response when the bad thing happens is to go and shut off and to stop tapping in to the power of that click in those moments, right? Take the moment to go. Who do I need to connect with? Who do I need to say the name of? Who do I need to ask, hey, how are you doing? Who do you need to weave in to your internal dialogue to activate that group of people, People so you can move, you can do the thing.
Gordon. Luke, nice to see you, my friend. So often I think the easy thing whenever we jump into the Cadre sphere is to, is to think of this as the space for, for the, you know, it's always going to be the, the positive side and a positive perspective. And I'll say positive and the negative or the real and the idealistic or the pessimistic and the optimistic. All of these things are two sides of the same coin. So today I'm talking about how do we activate the outward facing click? How do we activate this community that is by definition thinking about each other and thinking about those who are yet to be a part of it?
How do we use that model when things go wrong and things go bad? Like the world is, is volatile, and it will always be volatile. But in these moments, the reason why we have people around us is because they help us, they guide us, they teach us, they calm us, they do those things. But you need to be open when you are ready to do so in order to reap the benefit of that. So look at the world that you're in, look at the community that you're a part of and ask yourself how do you open yourself up to receiving what they have to provide you and what you have to provide them, y' all.
I'll be back again later on today, 3:30pm Central Standard Time for our third edition of you can't say that on Social media, Simple discords on social media. Betsy Hodges, former mayor of Minneapolis and equity activists and advisor and teacher and all around phenomenal human, is going to be my guest today as we have this conversation. But before that, you probably check out Betsy again this morning. And As I mentioned, Dr. Leslie, who's tuning in today right now will be with you at noon Central Standard Time talking about the power of that one on one relationship and how we care for ourselves and care about those people around us.
Y' all have a good one. I'll see you later.
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