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Hey there, Cadre. How are we doing today? I hope you're doing good. You know, you get a unique look. If you tune into Cadre today regularly, you get a unique look into how many different rooms I end up sitting in throughout the day. Right now, I'm sitting in this giant studio. I got my piano set up there for some rehearsals coming up. Right now my phone is perched on my laptop as I craft some stories and narratives for another project. But it's really amazing to think about the rooms that we find ourselves in and the people that are there when we are.

So this is a big building called the Core McCorvey Senior Wellness Center. So this whole building is filled with nonprofits who serve older individuals. And I think I'm probably one of the only people in this building right now. There's a clinic upstairs for lower income. There's a hospice upstairs as well. And right now, I am plopped in this big building all by myself, spending time with you Speak Wonder. Jules, Luke, nice to see y'all. Happy Friday. I hope you're doing great. And if you're not doing great, know that that is a.

Okay as well. Well, hey, at the end of a long day yesterday, I finally got home, and on the television was a TV show called the Pit. Not Pit like armpit, but Pit, like short for Pittsburgh. And the Pit is kind of a emergency room hospital in Pittsburgh, where it's like, always. Always jamming, always busy, always, like, chaos. And in the episode last night, there was an old gentleman who was in his last moments of life, and in the room were his two adult children. And the son was ready to say, okay, it's.

It's. It's time for dad to die. And the daughter was like, no, we need to keep him alive. And the doctor was like, well, to go ahead and do that, it's going to be really, really painful for him to, you know, have all this stuff put in him to keep him alive. And it's going to be painful, but he's not going to be able to tell you that it's painful and he's going to die no matter what. So this may be the time to let him go. And she just wasn't ready yet. Well, the story goes on. You know, the son kind of has this moment where he shares about some memories with his dad.

And apparently his dad worked on Mr. Rogers neighborhood. He was one of the art people. So he painted all of the worlds, all the imaginary worlds. And it was this really beautiful moment. And later on, you know, the daughter shared a Different story where she's like, I'm so grateful for the life you provided for us, but I'm angry at you because I didn't play catch. I wasn't the one who liked fishing. I wasn't the. Like, I was the really analytical thinker, and you were this creative person, and I wish you were the dad that I wanted you to be.

And obviously, this really emotional, emotional moment. And the doctor who is wonderful in this show first asked if they were a religious family, and they're like, nope, not at all. He's like, okay. He's like, okay, well, this may help. And he shared this Hawaiian kind of practice and proverbial sentiment on how they say goodbye to their loved ones. And he said, they. They. They say these four things to their. Their loved one as they pass. And he's like, they sound really simple, but he's seen them work.

So he. He left these two children who are soon to be, you know, parentless with these four statements to say to their dad. The first one is I love you. The second one is thank you. The third one is I forgive you. And the last one is forgive me. And that was the catalyst for both of these adult children to say goodbye to the alive part of their relationship with their dad. It's really powerful, I think. Here's why I think it was powerful. Often we think there are words that hold more magic than other ones or more power, or that there is this spell that we need to figure out how to cast, you know, and the doctor said this very simple thing.

It's like, hey, say I love you. Say thank you. Say, I forgive you. And say, forgive, forgive me. And that may be what shakes free, what needs to be shaken free in that moment for you to allow this inevitable moment, this inevitable, cruddy, cruddy moment to progress. And it did. So, you know, on Fridays, we often talk about it. Cadre, grief, loss. Maybe if we zoom out, that's like change or hard conversations or inevitable reality. I think all those things fit in the grief and loss space. And the message today is don't underestimate the power of what you're feeling.

Being able to rest within the vessel of words. Because what you feel and what you think is a value, the word is merely the pretty wrapping paper in the bows on the package. Sometimes people go, wow, this is a really pretty present. But really what they're thinking about is what's on the inside. So today, focus on what's on the inside, y'all. I'll be back on the weekend. Me and Alex Muir may be having to reschedule our interview tomorrow. Waiting to hear back from Alex if he needs to shift his schedule.

But if he does, I'll be here with a Cadre today talking about enoughness, as we do on Saturdays when we don't have an interview. Sundays we got some thin space and then a whole nother week awaits us ahead. Y'all check out the lineup. There's a really, really great live stream. You can tune into last night in Replay with Shannon and Team Mac. So tune into it because there's nothing better than having people who invite you into the conversation. A little outward facing click action. Y'all have a great Friday and we will see you soon.

Peace.