Sunday Spark Sessions

Welcome, Cadre, to the Sunday spark session. And today is all about managing our energy and preserving our energy and setting boundaries around our energy for a second. I don't know if this live went live, but it looks like it's live, so. But anyway, switching things up outside right now on our patio, just mow the lawn. Freshly cut lawn dogs outside, having a good time, healing up from his dog attack from our neighbor there. So he's doing good. And. Oh, Rick. Rick Cram. Welcome to the Live. Hello.

Hello. Yeah, and it's just super important to protect our, like create boundaries and protect our energy. Sometimes it's really hard to say no, right? Because we want to. If you're like a people pleaser like myself, I like to make other people happy. Hey, Rick. How you doing, Anya? Nice. Nice. Thanks for tuning into the live. You know, I feel like a lot of us are in that kind of people pleasing speak wonder. Welcome to the Live. Thanks for joining in, tuning in. You know, we're trying to be there for our loved ones, our parents.

Hello. Hello. Um, we're trying to be there for our kids. Although I, me and my wife don't have kids yet. We're going to in the next few years or very soon, could be sooner, I don't know. Setting boundaries around our energy and setting boundaries around who we spend our time with. It's super important because if we're constantly giving energy and not preserving energy for ourselves to do what we're work towards our goals, do things that we're working towards. Sometimes we are in a position of like, like an energy deficit.

And it's something I've been really working on over the last while saying no more. And it's, it's not easy. My dad's the king of saying no. Literally. Like when I was growing up, like, I'm like, oh, dad, I want to get a slushie. I want to get a. I want to get this ice cream cone. I want. You know, because we never really ate sugar. Still don't eat sugar very much now. My mom and dad taught us well, but just like anytime we would want something, that's the default answer would be no. And I learned from that.

I learned that it's not that my dad's like trying to be mean or anything. He's just. His default answer is no a lot of the. Most of the time. When I did ask him, like, dad, why do you say no so much? He's like, because, son, I'm trying to protect her time. I'm trying to protect our time. As a family, I'm trying to protect my time for the moments and the times that I need to get stuff done, or I'm trying to get ahead of my goals, or I'm trying to spend time with your mom, like my wife. Sometimes there's phases of our life where we need to say no more.

And it's learning how to create boundaries around saying no and having no as our default answer. No doesn't mean bad. No doesn't mean that you're mean. No doesn't mean that you're. That you're not a good person. No means you're creating boundaries and space for yourself and. And. And creating energy stores for those times that you need to say yes to the things that you want to say yes to. When we say no, it simply means not right now. I have other things I need to focus on or I need for myself and for others.

Right. No doesn't mean never. No means not right now. Because until I have to get XYZ done. So. Oh, be happy 2025. Thanks for joining to the Live. Hopefully, guys like this. Yeah. No gives more power. Exactly, Rick. It gives more power to our. Yes. So it's something that I've been really working on because, you know, I'm Bizzo B. The Zobet. Welcome to the Live. Thanks for tuning in. It's just very powerful to. When we say no. Like. Like I like some. Yeah. Protecting time clicks so well when thinking about.

Yeah, no, exactly. So that's. This live is all about. Right. Sunday Spark sessions is about sparking ideas, moments that might give us more clarity, more depth to our thinking, more deep thinking, more mindfulness. Like. And I loved the last live that Luke did about his son going up to JJ Redick and saying what? How does it feel about being one out of 32 coaches in the NBA or just one of 32 coaches? He didn't reference the NBA. They didn't talk about it. They didn't talk about basketball at all.

Such a powerful statement of asking that kind of a question. I'm a huge basketball fan. I love basketball. So that really resonated with me a lot. But, yeah, just, you know, the. The. I think a lot of us struggle with saying no, and we feel bad for saying no, which we shouldn't, because we're not. We're not. We're not. You know, we're. We're trying to protect our time when we say no is all, ultimately what we're trying to do and giving more power to the yes. Like. Like Rick says. So I Just want you guys all to know that it's okay to say no.

It's okay to reserve your energy for other things which you're working towards. It's, it's in actually, in actuality, you'll gain more respect for it. Although in the moment, your friends or family might be like, oh, I really want to see you right now, or we want to see you. But then when they do see you, it's a big deal. It's like you're. The times that you say no to protect your time and your family's time. When you do say yes, it's like, it's like a VIP yes. It's like, holy. Like this person's so busy working towards their goals.

All our respect for that, right? They're going to have a lot of respect for that. If they don't have respect for it, then they're not worth your time. But most of the time people will be really respectful and be like, whoa, okay, you're really taking this seriously. These goals are, these aspirations are your dreams that you're working towards. So there'll be a lot of respect built for you. So keep that in mind. Be okay with saying no. Be okay with setting boundaries. Even if it's awkward in the beginning, I still find it awkward sometimes too.

So see, See how it feels. Give it a tester. Like, say, say no. Say no to someone that you want. That you, you know, they, they're constantly on you like, oh, I want to hang out or I want to do this or. And you've said rain check a whole bunch of times because you're trying, because you don't want to say no because you're afraid of what they're going to feel or how they're going to feel or if they're going to be upset. But just say it like as your default. Learn how to say it as your default. Build the no muscle.

Sometimes it's necessary when you're trying to get, when you're trying to get into tunnel vision mode and to get stuff done. If you're working towards like certain big projects that you're working on or, or small, small projects that just require your undivided attention and energy. And nowadays in an attention deficit economy and, and world where we're all. Everyone's competing for our attention. So when we, when we empower ourselves and bring our attention back to where we want to, or redirect our attention to where we want to really put it to, it's very powerful.

So keep that in mind. Hopefully guys all enjoy this live and again, tune in for this Wednesday, Wealth Wisdom Wednesday, talking all about money building abundance, building a better money mindset. Because a lot of times the biggest challenge that we all face is what's in between our ears, the thing that's in between our ears of changing that, adapting that, to be able to think on a higher level and be more mindful of how we think. So thanks for tuning into this live and stay tuned for this Wednesday as well as a Wednesday.

And if you're new here, you don't know who I am. My name is Alex. I'm the founder of the mindset podcast on YouTube and on my YouTube channel at mind M I N D dash CEP on YouTube. So that's where I post all my free content. And I post twice a week, sometimes once a week if, if I'm too busy or again, date night with my wife or whatever. But I really try for the twice a week for Wealth Wisdom Wednesdays and Sunday Spark sessions because Cadre Community is an amazing place to be. We're here to empower people.

We're here to build people up, lift people up, make them think differently, make them more mindful, make them make you more become more thoughtful and just become an overall better human being. So thank you all for listening in, tuning in, and stay tuned for this Wednesday's Wealth Wisdom Wednesday and check me out on YouTube. Take care.