The Art Of Asking

Welcome. Welcome. Happy Tuesday. Hope you're having a good day. We've all heard. Ask and you shall receive. But does this actually work? Do you believe it? My name is Nick the poet, and I am a creative coach here at Cadre who believes in the power of questions and asking for what you want. We are often afraid to ask questions because we are afraid of what the answers might be. But everything we want is on the other side of that fear. And like most fears, it's a boogeyman. It's not real, you know?

And if we can take that step and ask that question, we might find freedom, peace, joy, happiness, relationships, money, mental health on the other side of asking those questions. And we don't want to make assumptions. You may assume that your boss knows that you want a raise or that your significant other knows that you want to spend more quality time with them, but until you ask, you're really not going to know. And so we don't want to make assumptions. This is one of the core tenets from the four agreements, a great book by Don Miguel Ruiz.

We don't want to make assumptions. So just by really getting clear with people, especially in the modern digital age, where we have many different types of communications going on, the more clear that we can be, the more we're probably going to like the results. And in spirituality, I believe in asking and acting as if it has been granted. If you've been exposed to any law of attraction, you know, type talk, you know, this is really common with that. I really believe in it. And so whether you are someone who believes in spirituality or not, I think just attempt to keep an open mind because there's a lot that you can learn from it, as there's a lot from that.

People who are really interested in spirituality can learn from, you know, people who are more interested in science and math. It's this. It's this give and take. But I think, you know, spiritual topics are becoming more popular. So I did want to share these with you because they've really helped me. And speaking in affirmations can help with this. We really have that negative voice in the head a lot of the time, and we don't want to discount our shadow selves or judge, you know, our thoughts or push that down and repress that.

So I'm not saying by being positive and using affirmations to not deal with the issues that are at hand, but I am saying that they have a lot of power to change our lives, to change our thoughts, which can then change our lives. So here's a few of my favorite affirmations I've been using recently, and I've collected some of these from social media, some from friends, and, you know, that kind of thing. So the first one is, health and wellness comes to me in usual and unusual ways. Health and wellness comes to me in usual and unusual ways.

Second one, I am the happiest person on earth, shining my light on everybody. I am the happiest person on earth, shining my light on everybody. I am in flow. I am in flow. I am constant creation of who I am. I am in constant creation of who I am. Right now. I am creating who I am. So the art of asking, it is an art. It's a practice. It's something that we can get better at. There's a great book by the famous musician Amanda Palmer called the art of asking how I learned to stop worrying and ask for help.

I want to read to you a quote from that. It says, it's hard enough to give fearlessly and it's even harder to receive fearlessly. But within that exchange lies the hardest thing of all. To ask without shame and to accept the help that people offer, not to force them, just to let them. And that's the difficult part about asking questions, is that it bears our soul. It's authentic, it's vulnerable. It's scary, you know, especially when asking for help with, you know, whether it could be a mental health struggle or, you know, when I was getting sober, I had to ask for.

I had to learn how to ask for help. And now I've had to practice and get better at asking for help because we are not meant to do this alone. You know, whether it's work, whether it's sobriety, mental health, love, relationships. No person is an island. We're intended to work together. But people aren't going to know if we don't make that leap and ask for help. You know, we need to make the leap and ask for help. So muster up whatever courage you can ask for help, okay? I think it's really important.

Another great question to ask others, especially in discussing problems, I learned this from a coaching book, is, what is the real challenge here for you? And so it kind of brings it back down to earth. Sometimes when people are discussing a problem, say it's a work task, they talk about it more theoretically. But if you ask this question, it's what's the real challenge here for you? It kind of brings it back to earth. It personalizes it, and it may help that person, you know, come up with a new solution.

And it's a great question to ask yourself, what's my real challenge here? What's really going on? And then maybe do some writing, some journaling on that. Maybe ask your friends and your acquaintances and business mentors, whoever it is, ask that question. So I want you to try something right now, right this second, not later today, not tomorrow. Ask the question that you have been putting off. Ask it whether it's work or personal or to the universe. Ask that question, no matter how big or small it is, and don't put it off.

Do it now. And if you don't do it now for some reason, do it as soon as you can. Okay? Because that's the time to ask. The question is right now. Because I believe that if we're asking the important questions, we're improving our ability to ask questions, then our life is going to improve. We're going to be of more service to others, and we're going to be happier. Thank you so much for joining this live today. I also wanted to bring up the live schedule for the rest of the week and so from some of the other creators here at Cadre.

So tomorrow we have shift happens. Ask the coach. This week's question was submitted by Kathy. m. And then we have somebody call 988. This is gonna be a live post from Evan Lieberman discussing the new 988 mental health emergency number. And then on July 29, we're gonna have what I've learned about becoming an endurance athlete from Luke Wendlett. Can't wait to read about that one. He has had some amazing endurance results and races over this past year. And the story behind it, stories behind it are super fascinating and inspiring.

And then we have recyclsis on August 2 with everyday habits and hacks and Carrie Mankey on August 3 picking up pennies. So those are some of the things that are coming up that you have to look forward to. Thank you so much for joining us live today. And I'll see you later. Peace.