Being happy for someone else means being happy for someone else. Let the conversation be theirs! We know we have wins too, but let that moment be theirs.
Day four in a row here on Cadre. We are sharing little nuggets to inspire, motivate, or maybe even have you think a little differently. Once you share, somebody immediately oversteps your share. So stop, collaborate and Listen is the Ice Ice song.
Sherry Recovery Cafe: How can you be the person that sticks out more like a sore thumb and listens and calibrates and holds up and stops? New feedlover sue has jumped in. Have a great week.
Good morning. It is Monday Cadre Sphere. We are backing at it. It's going to be a phenomenal week. Day four in a row here on Cadre. I love it. Just sharing little nuggets. Maybe it's about my life or something that I think is a value maybe to inspire, motivate, or maybe even have you think a little differently. But we are here. Happy Monday morning. It's one of my favorite things in the world to do is to participate with this community and share. And I really, really hope this one hits home and hits a little different.
And I think you'll probably know two things. Number one, I have a feeling you'll know that person. And number two, I think you're also going to check yourself to, to say, hmm, maybe I do that too. And maybe I do that too. And maybe, just maybe, this is an opportunity for me to check myself to say I'm gonna do this a little bit differently. Okay, who here has been at a dinner before? Maybe there's four of you, five of you, six of you. You've been at a dinner before. Could be family, could be at work, could be something of the like.
And you share good news, raise your hand. Me, right? Like, we've all, We've been there before. We've been at this opportunity. There's three of you, five of you, six of you, something like that, right? And you've, you've been at this moment where you're sharing good news, like, and you're excited to share. And I'll just use an example. There's. There's five of you, right? So there's five of you around the table and you say, I got a promotion at work, I'm going to be moving to XYZ job, right? I got a promotion.
I'm going to be moving to XYZ job at work. And you share that. And the very first thing out of somebody's mouth is, is like, oh, oh, me too. Oh, and by the way, I actually got a promotion last week and it's unbelievable. It comes with the extra pay. I have more time off. I have all this, right? So you just shared. And you just shared this. And once you share, somebody immediately oversteps your share and has to like, almost one up it if you will. So stop, collaborate and Listen is the Ice Ice. Vanilla Ice song.
But it's this moment for you to just stop calibrate and listen. So bear with me. You're at this table and someone says, I just got this promotion. I am so excited. I cannot wait for this Opportunity that starts next week for me. It's exciting. It's the first time I've got a promotion in a while. It's exciting. I can't wait. I'm happy for my family. It's the job I've always wanted. Blah blah, blah, blah, blah. And you immediately stop and you stop and you congratulate and you give gratitude. Oh, that's amazing.
I'm so happy for you. Calibrate, calibrate yourself, right? Because this news has shared and you're an overstepper or this is an opportunity that you see somebody do a lot. Right? Right. Calibrate and of course, listen. And you can listen in, listen to ask questions, ask three questions. Oh my gosh, when did you apply for this? Did you know you always wanted this? Is this a job you've been searching for a while and then after all of that has happened, after all of that has happened and you're happy and you're grateful and you're gracious and you're generous with your time and you're all those things for that individual, then maybe is the time, just maybe is the time to then say, you know, I've, believe it or not, like I actually applied for this job a couple weeks ago too, and I was able to share and this is what happened and it's super exciting for me and I too got a promotion.
But like, you gotta get there. You don't stretch yourself immediately to say me too. So I'm hoping this share today something that you can all take home to your families, to your friends and you can be the stop, calibrate and listen person. Because the last person you want to be is the overstepper, is the person that immediately makes it all about them, that immediately stops somebody dead in their tracks. Because like it is, it is absolutely, like honestly it's, it's debilitating and demoralizing to share your wins of life and your successes of life.
And somebody absolutely like oversteps it and it's not even fun, like, and it could be anything. I'm just, I'm just using job promotion because that's a pretty big one. But it could be anything, right? Like, you know, you won't believe it. I went to a blank coffee shop and you know, the, the, the barista gave me a free cup of coffee today. Oh, you know, I had a free cup of coffee yesterday too. Like, come on. Like, it's not, it's not great. Like, listen to somebody's story and invite them and invite yourself most importantly, to be happy.
And really take in the wins of somebody else's life. And when you can take in the winds of somebody else's life, you will be a confidant, you will be a friend, you will be somebody that people want to share with. Okay? So I want to invite you all, I want to invite you all to the next time, the next time. Think about this. The next time somebody shares good news, I want you to stop congratulate, calibrate your own mind. Like think about this, calibrate your own mind to say, I know I want to share this and I know I want to jump in and whatever, but I'm going to hold and then I'm going to listen and I'm going to ask questions and I'm going to dive a little bit deeper with their time and their share.
And then when all of that is done, then it's your time to be able to jump in and say, you know, I've actually had something like this too, or this is something that I would like to share about the day. Or this is something about your promotion. Believe it or not that this happened to me. But get there, okay? Get there, take your time and just do not to be the overstepper of life, okay? So I hope, I hope, I hope, I hope this one hits home because I think all of us do it a little bit, right? Good or bad news.
Right? Good or bad news. So how can you be the person that sticks out more like a sore thumb and listens and calibrates and holds up and stops? Okay, yes. That is an ice, ice baby reference. So I thought that would be a good title for the day. But I will see you tomorrow one way or another. I love, love, love this community. It's everything to me. It's why I do what I do. So I'm just going to quickly go through. Sherry Recovery Cafe. You're the best. I love what you're doing in the community. Amar, always good to see you.
Good morning, Amar. Jules says good morning. Good Morning, Jules. Rose. 612. Always good to have new listeners. So you guys take care. Listen more, talk less. Love this reminder. It's what it's all about. Can you do it? And I see new feedlover sue has jumped in. Sue, have a wonderful, amazing week. It's always good to see and hear from you. Take care, everybody. And if you need a little late 80s, early 90s, little tune to get you going, let's hit a little ice ice baby this morning. All right, you guys, peace.
Have a great week. Bye bye. Thank you.
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