Choose Your Hard

Hey, Cadre. Family doctor Kerry here. When I was getting divorced several years ago, I had a lot of people tell me I was taking the easy way out when in fact, one of the things that I actually say is that getting divorced was the hardest decision I ever had to make. And I've made some pretty hard decisions. I've moved across the country for a job, left my entire family. I have then quit that job and started a new career, which was also a hard decision. But I would probably still argue to this day that getting divorced was the hardest decision I ever had to make because it is not the easy decision.

All right? Like, there are consequences that come with every decision you make. But people would tell me that I was choosing the easy path. Now, I firmly believe in the sanctity of marriage. I don't believe divorce is an option. I was in a very unhealthy situation and I felt like I had no other option at the time. But it made me really reflect on this because as I am going to be getting married again here in just a few short months, it may be reflect on that decision, that every decision has consequences and there is no easy in life.

Nobody who goes through life can say that this is easy. Okay? For some people, it's waking up in the morning that's hard for them. For other people, it's staying married that's hard for them. For other people, it's getting married that's hard for them because it challenges some of their inner rejection, hurt maybe some of their insecurities about their freedom in life, whatever it may be. But my message to you today is choose your hard because there's always going to be hard decisions that we have to make in life.

But choose which one you want. There's no easy way out. There's no easy path. There's obviously people who skim by in life don't seem to have a lot of stress. I, in fact, met somebody like this recently, but she had a resiliency about her that made her think, there's really nothing bad about my life. And I've just chosen the hards that I want. So choose your hard today and whatever that looks like for you, whatever decisions you have to make today, big, small. Maybe it's just which decision of which coffee shop do I go get my coffee from this morning?

Maybe it's a huge business decision that you have to make. Maybe it's a relationship decision that you have to make. But choose your hard because there's no easy path. And so I want you to think about the consequences and the sequelae that come from that decision that you're making. But just know that whatever decision is in front of you, it's probably a hard one. And the path that's going to follow is probably going to involve work. Getting married is going to involve work. I fully understand and appreciate that.

But I'm choosing that hard, right? Because I'm choosing that over being single. Because I have found someone that I want to spend the rest of my life with and I want to work at the relationship with. So I'm choosing that hard. I'm choosing the hard every single day to stay in that relationship. So my message again to you today is choose your hard and think about what's going to happen after you make that decision. And then go with it. And then trust your gut and run with it. And live without regrets.

Because let me tell you, living with regrets can be one of the most damaging things to your health, to your mindset. So just make that decision. Maybe it means you need to entrust some friends and some wise counsel to help you with those decisions. But choose your heart today, and then run with it and live with it and be confident in that decision that you make. Thanks for tuning in with me today, guys.