Comedy Through the Chaos: Parenting Edition Savor The Storms

Hello, hello, hello and happy Saturday to you Cadre sphere. I am Ms. Shannon. I'm going to bend down a second. Oof. I didn't need to make that noise, but for comedic effect I might as well. Hello. Happy Saturday everybody. I hope that the day is treating you well so far. If it is not, shame on it. Not shame on you. I am a variety of things that you can read on my LinkedIn profile like a comedian and a corporate speaker and a voice actor and a vet MC and a benefit auctioneer. But I am also the proud parent of a 17 year old kiddo who happens to be high supports on the autism.

Amar, Hello. Hello. Before I move on Amar, in case you were a weren't able. Good morning. One can you just tap the screen if you can hear me? Okay. I know I was having technical issues and it took me a couple of restarts on Thursday during the live stream, but I didn't do anything weird today. So hopefully it's all working out fine. Especially since I'm at home. So. So hopefully it's not just mouth moving and no sound today because that'd be weird. So hopefully. Hello. Hello Math. Good to see you.

I don't know if I recognize your screen name. I think that you might be new to today or at least hanging out with me. So hello. Hopefully everybody can hear me. Okay. If not, you could just tell me that there is no audio and I will presume that there is something about a vortex around comedy through the chaos which would not be surprising. Fabulous. Fabulous. Just to bring you up to speed map. On Thursday during my live stream I had to like restart and then come back in and then turn around three times and then pat my head and, and, and rub my stomach to manage to get the sound to work.

I don't know what it was doing. I had some issues so. But welcome, welcome. Amar, a little personal note to you. Congratulations on your chef duties the other day. As someone who also likes to have some a variety of different be myself, I was a. I felt an akinship to you. So whatever you made for yourself. I don't know if that was breakfast or lunch. Yeah Math, it was a whole technical journey usually and you can't tell because of the wall that you see behind me. It looks like I'm super like a historian and a collector of oldish and old timey things.

But I usually am pretty good with technology at least if it's. I didn't build it, it's just working it. So the fact that I was having such a pilot error Day was irritating. So you are welcome, Amara. You are quite welcome. So I am coming to you from my home studio. As I said, if you go through my LinkedIn page, you'll see that I'm a variety of voice related things and part of that is being a voice actor. So I have this home studio, which by nature is the most quiet, calmest space in my house. Hello.

Hello, Tommy. Hello. And so it is because it's sound treated and it's set up for me to be able to do things that require it to be less loud. And I was going to do this upstairs because then we could enjoy the rain together. And then I thought better of it because if I do it upstairs, the fact that my voice also carries would probably wake up my teenager in the middle of the live stream. And then I gotta go parent. And so I know that is the parenting day, but I don't want you to have to watch me parent.

That happens a lot during my live streams that I have to actually go actively parent and multitask while we're talking. So let's see how today unfolds. And so the concept of comedy through the chaos, we talk about a variety of different things and I encourage you to kind of laugh through the hard times. I don't say that things are funny in the midst when we're going through all of these things and these parenting adventures, they are funny after or as we're going through them. So. So in the middle things, not funny, not funny lots of times.

So as we continue the conversations around savoring from a bunch of different angles, what I wanted us to do is just noodle on the concept of savoring the storm. And I thought we could use that from a tangible standpoint and also from a, a less tangible and a more figurative aspect. Right now I hub out of the great state of Minnesota. We are having some very aggressive storms, not the type that are right now washing people away, but there were some loud booms of thunder and some other things that were going on last night.

So we were up a little later than we were. And I remember the last time we had a round of storms like this. I was getting ready to go do something. Like I was going to go to the gym and have some personal time. You know, as, you know, as a mom, I was going to take a break and go do something else. And my sister was going to watch my son for me while I was heading out. And before I left, I came downstairs to grab my gym bag and I looked into the room that my Gym bag lives in. And there was a pool of water.

And so I'm like, great. And so what I had to do instead of going to do the thing I was gonna do was clean up all of this water. And at first I was really, really upset about the fact that I had to do this because of course, it's really frustrating you have this mini flood in your house. And I do give myself some grace, you know, kind of thing, because thank goodness I do have a safe place for us to live. We do have stable housing. I appreciate all of that. But it's still. Oh, my gosh, now I have to deal with this.

I have to. I had to. It was bad enough that I'm shop vacuum, I'm baking soda in water. I'm doing all of these things. And I remember how inconvenienced I was by the storm. And then once I had a chance. Sorry, there's banging going on upstairs. Yeah, I wonder what the banging is. I'll go check on it in a second. No, I'm gonna go check on it. Come with me, everyone. As I said, parenting as we walk. So I remember how inconvenienced I was by the store, and we're passing the room that actually got flooded that particular day.

And then I thought about it and I was like, you like storms, though? Especially since I grew up in Arizona and storms weren't a thing that got to happen very often. So it was always like a major event to be able to go out and watch a rainstorm. And I remember going outside when I was a little girl and putting popsicle sticks in the gutter and watching them roll, I mean, float down the street. And how amazing I thought that was. So not allowing the fact that something happened ruined the rest of how I felt about what it was.

And so that is the tangible thing that I think that we could talk about our parenting journey that leads to figuratively. So yesterday, I mean, if you look through this, and I'm pretty sure I posted this video, my kiddo and I had a very interesting night. A lot of times when I'm. When I'm home and we're hanging out, we do what I call as family spa night. I've been working on trying to get him working on a skincare routine because I don't think that we as a society, and by skin care, I don't mean, like, we have like a 12 step glass skincare routine where we walks and wax and all this stuff, just really just wash your face, moisturize your face like that.

You know, I don't think that we tell young people enough that especially young boys, especially young boys going, hey, it's okay to just wash your face and moisturize yourself. You'll be in a better mood. So that's one of the things that we do. And so it's turned into kind of a thing. So I get a bunch of different masks. So he's gotten into his green. Green clay mask, and last night we had a new mask, and we had a really fun time. You know, we had a fun time. We had a rousing conversation. One of his favorite things to talk about is Thomas the Tank Engine, the series still.

So we were talking about the trains and hanging out. Good morning. Good morning. Would you like me to give you something to drink? Good morning. Where's your cup? It's raining. Good morning. Good morning. So I will help you if you go, give me your cup. I will put it in here. And then. Do you want pancakes or waffles? See, this is the whole thing, parenting on a. During our live stream, when we're talking about parenting. Would you like me to go ahead and make your breakfast? Okay, I'll fix it. Thank you for putting that back.

Go get your cup. Give me your cup. I'll make you breakfast. Are we gonna go outside here, y'? All. Here's what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna let him recalibrate himself this morning. I'm gonna come out here, finish talking to y' all in the garage, and then I'll go in and make breakfast. So give me a second. One of my favorite things about Cadre is that you're probably like, they're all professional contributors, and they do this, and they have these great setups, and they do stuff, and it's like, nah, we're people just like, y' all laugh.

Life and lifeing. So welcome to my garage. So we will finish this thought, and then I will go parent. So the thing I wanted to remind you is that often, as you just saw in real time, there are those waves, those storms, those moments of thunder, those moments of lightning, the part of the storm that might be chaotic, the parts of the storm that might be destructive. And then I think as parents, when we have those difficulties, we go, I'm doing this wrong. There must have been a problem. Maybe there's something that I caused.

If I had done a better job of this, we never would have had this chaos or this storm or these things. And the reality is, storms like you can see just happen. They just happen to all of us. There are forces that will be outside of our control, and then we will weather them, and then we will figure out on the other side of it what we need to do next. And there might be some cleanup that we have to do. There might be some things that we had to go and pick up and go, oh, that was an outcome that I wasn't expecting.

Just like when I had to go clean up my basement that one day, but we'll be okay, you know, And a lot of times that's when you find your community. That's when you find your resilience. And it doesn't mean that it wasn't hard and it didn't. It doesn't mean that it didn't suck. It just means that it wasn't something that you did to cause it. So I encourage you to look at that. Hello, I'm Suze. Good to see you. I'm in my garage right now. So think about that. Like, savor the storms. When you're looking at them and you're weathering that part of the journey as a parent, look into it.

Instead of beating yourself up about something that you think you may have been able to do differently so that you didn't have whatever chaotic or tumultuous thing that you just did. Realize that some of those things are inevitably inevitable. And then you can figure out what you're gonna do on the other side of that journey once the storm passes. That's when we get to make our next decision and do what we can do to do the next right thing. At the moment, maybe it might require a little bit of cleanup.

Maybe you'll go outside and go, hey, look, there's a rainbow. It's hard to tell until the storm's over, so give yourself some grace in the midst of it. So good morning, junk food junkie. So you missed the whole tour, so you have to go ahead and look back in because you got to talk in. And then basically my 16 year old woke up grumpy and so he kicked me out of the house. So I'll go back in and I'll talk to 16 or 17 year old. 17 year old woke up grumpy, kicked me out of the house. So I'm gonna go back in and figure that out in a minute.

But if you're along this journey and whether you're a parent, a caretaker, or just parenting yourself, whether you're just trying to figure out, how do I self regulate, what does that look like for me? Please keep in mind that sometimes when you do get into those Difficult things. When that stunner starts rolling, when the lightning starts striking, you didn't do anything to cause that. And sometimes there's not even anything you could have done to avoid that. You were just in that place where that storm was going to hit.

And then hopefully you're in a position once it passes. And again, it will pass. It may take a while, and there may be a lot that's going on until it passes, but it will pass. And then after it passes, then you can rally yourself and figure out what you're going to do during the cleanup. So, speaking of cleanup, I'm going to go inside. Hey, you guys want a little full disclosure? Go ahead and tap the screen. If you. If I. Is this a time that I could do that? Yeah, that's right. No, he came out. He kind of.

I said, good morning. He said, good morning, kind of grumbly. And they kind of looked at me like, get off the phone. So I was like, okay, I'll come out here. I'll finish talking. Go inside. So this is the thing. I'm gonna give you a full disclosure. When I started the live stream this morning, I was downstairs in my studio. So for the last day or so, when I was sitting at my studio debt at my desk in my studio, editing some audio for a project I had, there was an aroma in my audit on my studio. So I.

That was not good. It was bad. And here's what I thought it was. So I blamed two other things that live with me in my house. So I blamed my son in that he had decided he was going to sit in my studio. And then I blamed our cat, because then he got the cat to go into the studio. When my son came out of the studio, he closed the door and he locked our cat in the studio. And I didn't notice for a while. So then I finally heard the cat complaints complaining, and so I went in there. So I mistakenly thought that the cat, because the cat was locked in the studio, had used the restroom somewhere in my studio.

And I hadn't figured out it was to the point that I also. I. I was just so sure that, like, the reason that my studio had this crazy aroma in it is that the cat had had a cat accident on that rug right there. So I'm like, we'll put the rug outside, and that'll take care of it. So that's what happened in my head last night. So I blame the cat, and I blame my son for the whole thing. I'm like, okay, your studio smells because of Them, you know, like, you shouldn't let him in the studio. So this goes back to what is.

And so then I went down this morning before I was getting ready to talk to y', all, and then I started looking around, and then I. When I first started, I was sitting on a stool that I normally sit when I do things to this particular ring light, stand and glow and behold, you know what was sitting. And I didn't take a picture of it. I should have because I needed to take responsibility for this. Sitting on the stool that I sit on was a Tupperware with a bunch of wilty, somewhat desiccated beginning to mold lettuce and one piece of, like, chicken bone sitting in it.

Quite disgusting. And it was starting to, like, turn. Starting to turn. Not in a good way. Like a vampire was starting to turn there. And it's my fault because I don't usually eat in my studio, but I was in a rush and I was trying to do some stuff while. And eat while I was editing something, and I forgot to bring the plate back into the kitchen and then left it down there. And that what was ripening and it had done in my studio. So I apologize. I know, and I saw. So I apologize to my son and to our cat for blaming them for what happened in my studio, which was my fault.

All me. So do with that as you will, everybody. We are all perfectly imperfect. We are trying to figure out all the things that we could do to keep moving one day at a time, one moment at a time. And we are in this journey together. We appreciate you being part of the Cadre sphere. Always let us know what we can, we can continue to do, to contribute here. If there's something in particular, you could always let us know in the comments. You can also email everybody here and get to know everybody and contact people.

There's also ways that if you need specific coaching, you can go ahead and book people that you can do that as well. So we continue to build this community. And I need to apologize to the carpet I threw outside. I know. I'm like, sorry, carpet, sorry. I put it out here because I knew it was going to rain. I'm like, it'll rain on it. That'll help. So problem solved. Pilot error. All right, so I will unspool a variety of things, and by the time I see you Next Thursday at 2pm Central, there's probably something else that I should apologize for.

Because, hey, it's per. It's progression, not perfection. So be well, everybody. If the day isn't treating you well. Shame on it. Not shame on you. I'll see you all soon. It.